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2023.06.02 06:53 SlightJuggernaut2664 Roommate Lease Amendmum
Backstory: So our (my girlfriend and I) have a roommate who has been with us for 6 months out of the 12 month lease contract. She was once bestfriends with my girlfriend but recently started a fight with my girlfriend over us not upkeeping the roommates kitchen mess (she's often acted rather delusional or hypocritical and has even admitted to this). This month she has become hostile with my girlfriend and even screamed vulgarities at my girlfriend, while having her boyfriend sit next to my girlfriend on the couch. My girlfriend was afraid she was being setup for a 2v1 fight and kept insisting she only wanted to watch her show and had nothing to say. The roommate continued screaming vulgar phrases. All while I was at work and far from home. We then purchased and setup security cameras in the front entrance room, the living room, the kitchen, and garage. I have not even said if they are or are not recording. But they were also not hidden. Only one being out of reach as it was on the kitchen ceiling. She has finally signed (us included) a rental ammendmum from the landlord stating that she will be off the lease after June 1st and no longer was responsible for damages or finances. However, she has not started packing and doesn't seem to want to leave. She has also threatened using the idea that we have cameras without her consent as a way for her to get at us.
Question 1: Since she signed the agreement to leave. Can we ask her to leave on June 2nd? If she refuses can we get the Landlord or Law Enforcement to remove her and retrieve her stuff at a later date? Or does this fall under the eviction 30 days notice?
Question 2: Is there anything she can realistically charge us with (in CA) for having the cameras placed only in common rooms?
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Question 1: Since she signed the agreement to leave. Can we ask her to leave on June 2nd? If she refuses can we get the Landlord or Law Enforcement to remove her and retrieve her stuff at a later date? Or does this fall under the eviction 30 days notice?
Question 2: Is there anything she can realistically charge us with (in CA) for having the cameras placed only in common rooms?
2023.06.02 06:52 Competitive_Ant_6889 FA Cup Finals Watchparty in San Francisco!!
 | As the gaffer said on Sunday, "We still have one game left vs Manchester City on Saturday." The FA Cup is coming back to Old Trafford!! We have the last game for this season at Danny Coyles to cheer the team on and then celebrate the victory when we win!!! The doors will open at around 6:30-6:45AM or the way I call it "Guiness Time" or "Irish Coffee Time." One of own Brian Coyle will be at the bar!! submitted by Competitive_Ant_6889 to ManchesterUnited [link] [comments] It has been an amazing season, we have grown the community and made it official. We have a lot events planned for the summer, but for the FA Cup Final, we do have a surprise for all of you. Make sure you come in early for the game, since we are expecting a lot of people to show up. If you are traveling from far away, coordinate with the others in this group and maybe you'll find a carpool friend for future games as well. We will have some scraves which are for sale, so get yours soon before they run out. Every season we are coming up with a different scarf design so this scarf is going to be a limited edition scarf, since it is the first one ever that we have released. Don't miss out on this!! We'll see you on Saturday as the REDS GO MARCHING ON, ON, ON!! https://linktr.ee/redarmysf |
2023.06.02 06:51 Admirable-Usual559 How do I deal with a narcissist?
So for context of the current situation, I (15f) recently got caught smoking weed by my dad. He is very anti weed and considers it a dangerous drug. One of those guys that got scared by D.A.R.E when he was in high school and he himself has never smoked weed. I agree that it was a bad idea to smoke in his house. Instead of dealing with the situation like a parent should (by punishing me and having a talk with me, expressing disappointment but loving me at the same time), he blamed my mother and threatened to call CYS or the cops. My mom didn’t give me the pot, he’s just delulu and thinks that she did for some reason. He repeatedly texts me about how disappointed he is in me and how I have forever broken his trust. I’ve been ignoring him, as replying fuels the fire and makes things worse because he wants me to fight him.
This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
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This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
2023.06.02 06:51 leephelipe I need a minute of y'all's attention, AR S2 theory time
I recently got myself a rogue hog for custom reasons, as you all might already know it was a planned toy for the season two of acceleracers and as a big fan of the series that could've i wanted one ahah
yesterday, mine came in, 2014 release, goofy ahh retool but it's nice, it got it's character i dont mind, so yeah, what i noticed today is that: rogue hog has no steering wheel on it's interior, instead it got two joysticks, perhaps for controlling the mech and steering and i though "oh hey, that's neat and pretty clever, they really put in some thought for the transforming thing" and it clicked me, supposing all season two cars were supposed to transform at some point, they all might have this design feature, right?
another design planned for season two was the now known as "Pharadox", a drone transforming vehicle shown in the catalog. i don't own one of those sadly, and it is relevant to this as: it was planned for acceleracers at some point correct yes, and it was planned for one of those transforming figures which yay great cool, so if my theory is any correct, it shouldn't have a steering wheel, instead having joysticks, and if it does, it opens the doors to theorize if other cars that share this feature might also have been planned for the series at some point, specifically those from 2005-2009 which was when the series was the most active. but not only that, but also that in that time frame we often saw vehicles from the series hit the mainline after being dropped, let me list a few: 2005- Airy 8; 2006- pharadox, sledge hammer; 2007- rogue hog; 2009- chopper (yeah... it's a battle force 5 not mainline but still)
i'm pretty confident on this theory but don't get me wrong, this theory is not bullet proof, there are a few holes i can't prove or argue with, such as the following questions: - What if pharadox doesn't have said interior feature? well, then rogue hog is, thus far, alone on this - What if not all vehicles for season two were planned to transform to begain with? then it'll be near impossible to tell what was and what isn't, such as sledge hammer, no one had a clue about it until Accelereece found out that, but yeah it would just make it the harder to find out - What if there ARE yes other diecasts meant for the series that where re-designed to feature a wheel? again, then it's near impossible to tell the difference without more info on the s2 line
TL:DR Rogue hog's interior was made with the transforming figure in mind, what if other dropped diecasts did the same?
well, this was my small ted talk, hope it's worth a read, if you find something new let us know, if i said something wrong go ahead and correct me i don't mind, i'm just trying to get us a step closer to discovering the whole planned line with some cars that saw the light of day, because in the end, we all know there are other like 20 designs that were never conceptualized to the public in any way and we might never see or know, now it's with y'all, Lee out
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yesterday, mine came in, 2014 release, goofy ahh retool but it's nice, it got it's character i dont mind, so yeah, what i noticed today is that: rogue hog has no steering wheel on it's interior, instead it got two joysticks, perhaps for controlling the mech and steering and i though "oh hey, that's neat and pretty clever, they really put in some thought for the transforming thing" and it clicked me, supposing all season two cars were supposed to transform at some point, they all might have this design feature, right?
another design planned for season two was the now known as "Pharadox", a drone transforming vehicle shown in the catalog. i don't own one of those sadly, and it is relevant to this as: it was planned for acceleracers at some point correct yes, and it was planned for one of those transforming figures which yay great cool, so if my theory is any correct, it shouldn't have a steering wheel, instead having joysticks, and if it does, it opens the doors to theorize if other cars that share this feature might also have been planned for the series at some point, specifically those from 2005-2009 which was when the series was the most active. but not only that, but also that in that time frame we often saw vehicles from the series hit the mainline after being dropped, let me list a few: 2005- Airy 8; 2006- pharadox, sledge hammer; 2007- rogue hog; 2009- chopper (yeah... it's a battle force 5 not mainline but still)
i'm pretty confident on this theory but don't get me wrong, this theory is not bullet proof, there are a few holes i can't prove or argue with, such as the following questions: - What if pharadox doesn't have said interior feature? well, then rogue hog is, thus far, alone on this - What if not all vehicles for season two were planned to transform to begain with? then it'll be near impossible to tell what was and what isn't, such as sledge hammer, no one had a clue about it until Accelereece found out that, but yeah it would just make it the harder to find out - What if there ARE yes other diecasts meant for the series that where re-designed to feature a wheel? again, then it's near impossible to tell the difference without more info on the s2 line
TL:DR Rogue hog's interior was made with the transforming figure in mind, what if other dropped diecasts did the same?
well, this was my small ted talk, hope it's worth a read, if you find something new let us know, if i said something wrong go ahead and correct me i don't mind, i'm just trying to get us a step closer to discovering the whole planned line with some cars that saw the light of day, because in the end, we all know there are other like 20 designs that were never conceptualized to the public in any way and we might never see or know, now it's with y'all, Lee out
2023.06.02 06:51 Batterydude6000 New PC for complete newbie
Hey guys,
This is my first pc ever. I've been looking into many different pc parts and finally picked on these. Feel free to let me know if I could have done better, but keep in mind I already bought them, so I can't really do anything about it if they're not the best.
CPU: Intel Core i5-12400F 2.5 GHz 6-Core Processor
CPU COOLER: Vetroo V5 52 CFM CPU Cooler
MB: Asus PRIME B660-PLUS D4 ATX LGA1700 Motherboard
RAM: Silicon Power GAMING 16 GB (2 x 8 GB) DDR4-3200 CL16 Memory
MEMORY: Seagate Barracuda Compute 2 TB 3.5" 7200 RPM Internal Hard Drive
AND Samsung 980 500 GB M.2-2280 PCIe 3.0 X4 NVME Solid State Drive
GPU: PNY GeForce RTX 3060 12GB XLR8 Gaming REVEL EPIC-X RGB Dual Fan Edition
CASE: Antec DF700 FLUX ATX Mid Tower Case
POWER: EVGA SuperNOVA 650 G5 650 W 80+ Gold Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply
MONITOR: Lenovo G24-10 24" (23.6" Viewable) 1920 x 1080 Full HD 1ms 144Hz G-Sync Compatible HDMI DisplayPort Tilt Gaming Monitor
WIFI: ASUS AC750 Dual Band PCIe WiFi Adapter (PCE-AC51) - Compatible with PCIe
About the wifi pcie adapter: I actually have really fast Wifi 6 at home, and didn't know this when I bought the wifi. Is there a drastic difference between this wifi card and the one I might buy? Here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Ubit-Ubit-AX200/dp/B07Y2MYK4N/?th=1
I am planning to build this in a couple weeks. I am really confused by all the different cables and fan hubs and stuff, so it would be greatly appreciated if someone can help with that. It would be the greatest help if anyone could give me a list of all the necessary cables, asus motherboard drivers, and bios settings. Thanks!
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This is my first pc ever. I've been looking into many different pc parts and finally picked on these. Feel free to let me know if I could have done better, but keep in mind I already bought them, so I can't really do anything about it if they're not the best.
CPU: Intel Core i5-12400F 2.5 GHz 6-Core Processor
CPU COOLER: Vetroo V5 52 CFM CPU Cooler
MB: Asus PRIME B660-PLUS D4 ATX LGA1700 Motherboard
RAM: Silicon Power GAMING 16 GB (2 x 8 GB) DDR4-3200 CL16 Memory
MEMORY: Seagate Barracuda Compute 2 TB 3.5" 7200 RPM Internal Hard Drive
AND Samsung 980 500 GB M.2-2280 PCIe 3.0 X4 NVME Solid State Drive
GPU: PNY GeForce RTX 3060 12GB XLR8 Gaming REVEL EPIC-X RGB Dual Fan Edition
CASE: Antec DF700 FLUX ATX Mid Tower Case
POWER: EVGA SuperNOVA 650 G5 650 W 80+ Gold Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply
MONITOR: Lenovo G24-10 24" (23.6" Viewable) 1920 x 1080 Full HD 1ms 144Hz G-Sync Compatible HDMI DisplayPort Tilt Gaming Monitor
WIFI: ASUS AC750 Dual Band PCIe WiFi Adapter (PCE-AC51) - Compatible with PCIe
About the wifi pcie adapter: I actually have really fast Wifi 6 at home, and didn't know this when I bought the wifi. Is there a drastic difference between this wifi card and the one I might buy? Here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Ubit-Ubit-AX200/dp/B07Y2MYK4N/?th=1
I am planning to build this in a couple weeks. I am really confused by all the different cables and fan hubs and stuff, so it would be greatly appreciated if someone can help with that. It would be the greatest help if anyone could give me a list of all the necessary cables, asus motherboard drivers, and bios settings. Thanks!
2023.06.02 06:50 Admirable-Usual559 How do I deal with a narcissist?
So for context of the current situation, I (15f) recently got caught smoking weed by my dad. He is very anti weed and considers it a dangerous drug. One of those guys that got scared by D.A.R.E when he was in high school and he himself has never smoked weed. I agree that it was a bad idea to smoke in his house. Instead of dealing with the situation like a parent should (by punishing me and having a talk with me, expressing disappointment but loving me at the same time), he blamed my mother and threatened to call CYS or the cops. My mom didn’t give me the pot, he’s just delulu and thinks that she did for some reason. He repeatedly texts me about how disappointed he is in me and how I have forever broken his trust. I’ve been ignoring him, as replying fuels the fire and makes things worse because he wants me to fight him.
This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
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This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
2023.06.02 06:50 LearningToOwnHomeVet Silver Maple (according to Siri), and I have some questions prior to visit from local arborist.
Bought my house 6 months ago, and I didn’t take picture of the tree before Spring. It’s ugly when bare, shaped like a giant bush. I love it right now!
As far as I know, this is a Silver Maple.
Zone 7A, southeast USA. Heavy clay soil.
1) root flare look alright?
2) I’ve been trimming my grass around the root flare with my weed eater on a low setting. Is this dangerous for the tree?
3) do you see anything else notable that I should be aware or?
Thanks!
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As far as I know, this is a Silver Maple.
Zone 7A, southeast USA. Heavy clay soil.
1) root flare look alright?
2) I’ve been trimming my grass around the root flare with my weed eater on a low setting. Is this dangerous for the tree?
3) do you see anything else notable that I should be aware or?
Thanks!
2023.06.02 06:50 kupp01 Am I being petty
So definitely first world problem, but here goes. I want to know if this is worth arguing over... I'm the breadwinner. We have a triple garage home, and hubby has an antique car that has sentimental value for us. He then bought another sports car last year, which he got a lift for to park them on top of one another for the winter. I have a minivan that is also relatively new and he sold his SUV and got a new one a month ago. Now that it's summer and he wants to drive his cars, he's telling me to park outside while he parks all 3 of his cars in the garage. He tells me they're not all his because he never paid for them, I did. And I have to park outside because his daily commute car is newer than mine and he doesn't want it getting scratched up with the kids playing out there. He wants me to move it onto the driveway every night too when the kids are done playing. And I'm just not that interested. If my car is outside, I don't care where it's parked. I told him he should move my van onto the driveway then if it bothers him. He won't do that either because he never knows where the keys are (I'm bad about leaving the keys in pockets and purses and there is only 1 set of keys). I feel like he's just doing whatever he wants without considering anyone else.
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2023.06.02 06:49 Admirable-Usual559 How to deal with an abusive dad?
So for context of the current situation, I (15f) recently got caught smoking weed by my dad. He is very anti weed and considers it a dangerous drug. One of those guys that got scared by D.A.R.E when he was in high school and he himself has never smoked weed. I agree that it was a bad idea to smoke in his house. Instead of dealing with the situation like a parent should (by punishing me and having a talk with me, expressing disappointment but loving me at the same time), he blamed my mother and threatened to call CYS or the cops. My mom didn’t give me the pot, he’s just delulu and thinks that she did for some reason. He repeatedly texts me about how disappointed he is in me and how I have forever broken his trust. I’ve been ignoring him, as replying fuels the fire and makes things worse because he wants me to fight him.
This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
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This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
2023.06.02 06:49 Keldarus88 Manor 2nd Floor
One thing I personally have loved to do over the years is create the Manor in the Sims, and make the sisters.
Of course we know that the show set does not fit with the footprint of the real house. But the 2nd story is even more confusing and does not match up with the floor below.
1.) Who truly has the room at the end of the hall (front of the house above the parlor) ? -In S4 it is shown as Prue’s room, later converted to Paige’s. Though it’s also shown as Phoebe’s room before season 3, and in Season 8. It’s Wyatt’s room after Witchstock in Season 6. -I am thinking they have one main bedroom set with the floral printed wallpaper that they alternate between Phoebe/Paige/Prue/Wyatt’s room. But wouldn’t that be silly to change everything in the entire set each time someone has a scene in a bedroom?
2.) How many bedrooms does the manor actually have? 3 or 4? -When each sister had their own room I am assuming Grams had her own bedroom as well? -In Witchstock, Piper had turned Phoebe’s room in to a gym, and Paige’s in to Wyatt’s room. Yet when the sisters moved back in Wyatt/Chris still had a bedroom? -Prior to that they had to build a nursery in Piper’s closet -Piper said Wyatt’s room used to be Grams’ sewing room (again looks like same set) unless that became Gram’s bedroom when the girls got older and had their own rooms.
Other parts of the manor of course don’t make sense the door under the stairs is a bathroom in season 1 then becomes a closet in later seasons, as well as the door next to Piper’s window is sometimes a bathroom sometimes a closet as well lol.
The window in the bathroom makes no sense either unless it goes directly in to phoebe’s bedroom lol
I know TV sets =/= real life but just funny to try to adapt them.
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Of course we know that the show set does not fit with the footprint of the real house. But the 2nd story is even more confusing and does not match up with the floor below.
1.) Who truly has the room at the end of the hall (front of the house above the parlor) ? -In S4 it is shown as Prue’s room, later converted to Paige’s. Though it’s also shown as Phoebe’s room before season 3, and in Season 8. It’s Wyatt’s room after Witchstock in Season 6. -I am thinking they have one main bedroom set with the floral printed wallpaper that they alternate between Phoebe/Paige/Prue/Wyatt’s room. But wouldn’t that be silly to change everything in the entire set each time someone has a scene in a bedroom?
2.) How many bedrooms does the manor actually have? 3 or 4? -When each sister had their own room I am assuming Grams had her own bedroom as well? -In Witchstock, Piper had turned Phoebe’s room in to a gym, and Paige’s in to Wyatt’s room. Yet when the sisters moved back in Wyatt/Chris still had a bedroom? -Prior to that they had to build a nursery in Piper’s closet -Piper said Wyatt’s room used to be Grams’ sewing room (again looks like same set) unless that became Gram’s bedroom when the girls got older and had their own rooms.
Other parts of the manor of course don’t make sense the door under the stairs is a bathroom in season 1 then becomes a closet in later seasons, as well as the door next to Piper’s window is sometimes a bathroom sometimes a closet as well lol.
The window in the bathroom makes no sense either unless it goes directly in to phoebe’s bedroom lol
I know TV sets =/= real life but just funny to try to adapt them.
2023.06.02 06:48 MrCoffee0996 Potential buyer questions for Steam Deck
With all the current hype of handheld "PC" gaming. I'm currently considering of owning one, and decided that steam deck is probably better choice for me (compared to ROG Ally). But since I'm pretty new in this region, and not quite tech savvy despite having a good gaming PC, I do have some questions regarding steam deck. Hopefully someone here want to help me out.
-Civilization 6 and strategy games in general -smaller games like Two Point hospital and farming games
-RPGs like FF series and something like Tales of Arise
-single player fps games like Metro series
-and possibly other older titles that I haven't managed to finish on my PC.
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- I've never used Linux (windows user). How hard is navigating through steam deck menu and desktop mode? I've also heard about steam deck plugins, how complicated are those? Also considering installing some emulators as well.
- I don't plan to play big AAA on steam deck (except few), how good is the performance realistically? I dont mind lowering the graphics as long as I can hit decent framerate. Games I'm thinking of playing in steam deck are:
-Civilization 6 and strategy games in general -smaller games like Two Point hospital and farming games
-RPGs like FF series and something like Tales of Arise
-single player fps games like Metro series
-and possibly other older titles that I haven't managed to finish on my PC.
- Aside for performance, might you care about sharing about the controls on steam deck for the titles above? How good is it to play those games?
- Should I get the 64GB and upgrade later, or go ham with 512GB model with that special coated display? I'm not sure how different the display is.
- How well does steam deck use steam link (streaming from my PC)? Think it's a good way to play at home? Having 60fps plus longer battery life seems great. But problem is my PC is using ultrawide monitor. I've tried steam link on my iPad and it would just stream ultrawide aspect ratio on my iPad which is very bad experience.
2023.06.02 06:47 Admirable-Usual559 How do I deal with an abusing dad?
So for context of the current situation, I (15f) recently got caught smoking weed by my dad. He is very anti weed and considers it a dangerous drug. One of those guys that got scared by D.A.R.E when he was in high school and he himself has never smoked weed. I agree that it was a bad idea to smoke in his house. Instead of dealing with the situation like a parent should (by punishing me and having a talk with me, expressing disappointment but loving me at the same time), he blamed my mother and threatened to call CYS or the cops. My mom didn’t give me the pot, he’s just delulu and thinks that she did for some reason. He repeatedly texts me about how disappointed he is in me and how I have forever broken his trust. I’ve been ignoring him, as replying fuels the fire and makes things worse because he wants me to fight him.
This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
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This I can understand, the trust being broken and the disappointment. But he’s being very extreme, threatening the police and CYS like it’s nothing to him. Not hesitating to tell me that he will never forgive me for this. Very end of the world to him.
He’s always been a pretty absent dad. He always worked when I was a little kid and never went to any of my softball games or school events, even when he was home. He moved my mother and brother and I 3 hours from our family and almost my entire childhood I never communicated with anyone outside of my immediate family. About 6 months ago I stopped going to his house, and now I only see him every other weekend. His relationship with my mom really messed me up and now I have anxiety, depression, and severe PTSD. When he gets angry he has outbursts, calling names and throwing things and punching things. Basically every form of abuse except for physical hitting. Most of my life I’ve blamed everything that happens between us on myself, even if I know it isn’t all my fault. I took on the absence, the fighting, the suicide threats, the punching and throwing, the divorce, and the manipulation. I personally feel that we barely have a relationship at all even though I’m almost certain he would disagree. He knows absolutely nothing about me, because I prefer it that way as it gives him less to hurt me with later. I would consider my dad a narcissist and I think that he needs serious psychological intervention. Despite my years and years of outpatient therapy and psychiatric treatment, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he’s acted and he doesn’t acknowledge his part in my mental illness.
About 5 months ago I started smoking weed regularly. I understand the risk of self medicating with marijuana and it’s a risk that I don’t take lightly as I have a very good reputation and I have a history of addiction in my family. I have found antidepressants very ineffective and they have given me nothing but suicidal thoughts. The weed has been the only thing to manage my anxiety and make life manageable and it doesn’t make me think about dying. I’m a straight A, occasional B, honors student going into my junior year. I think I’m the kind of kid most parents would be proud to have. I don’t party or sneak out, the only bad thing I’ve ever done is the weed. Despite my good gpa and hard work, I was dumb enough to leave a bowl with resin in it at his house and he found it while snooping in my drawers.
I’m not really sure where to go from here with my relationship with my dad. I don’t see us having any sort of good relationship once I turn 18 in about 2 years. It’s been about 3 days since he found the weed and I’ve been ignoring his nasty text messages to me. There is no talking to him. My mom went through the same thing a few years ago when they were married and he found her stash. He also only found less than a gram of burnt flower. I know this because I burnt every pull out it and then spilled the asked on my floor. There was almost nothing to find. He will never ever admit he’s wrong or apologize. If you know a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about. I don’t even know what to say to him. I was sorry, but after he spoke to me the way he did, I no longer feel sympathy for disobeying him. My mom is considering helping me get my medical card, as that will make it no longer incriminating. Does anyone with experience with abusers/crazy people know what to do? Any tips from those without experience? Is it even worth my time to try and repair this relationship or should I just stop seeing him at all?
Let me know your thoughts please.
2023.06.02 06:46 Professional-Cow-379 I (18f) don't know how to deal with my friend/roommates (18f) passive-aggressive digs
My friend (18f) has been living with me (18f) for almost 3 months because she doesn't have a lot of housing options. We have been friends for 7 years and have had a really healthy relationship until about 6 months ago. Whenever she starts to get stressed out she starts acting like a middle school bully and says really passive aggressive things to me.
Up until now, I have ignored it because I know her life has been hard lately and I thought it was just a phase, but today we were about to go for a walk and I invited my sister (22f) to go with, and my friend said "Do you really want her going on a walk with us" and rolled her eyes. Me and my sister were shocked and I haven't talked to her since.
I'm not okay with her treating my family like that and it's something I thought she would never do. I don't want awkward energy in the house, but I can't stand to be around her right now. I don't know how to start a productive conversation about the way she's been treating people because she can be very defensive. Does anyone know how to go about having that conversation or what to say? I really appreciate it :)
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Up until now, I have ignored it because I know her life has been hard lately and I thought it was just a phase, but today we were about to go for a walk and I invited my sister (22f) to go with, and my friend said "Do you really want her going on a walk with us" and rolled her eyes. Me and my sister were shocked and I haven't talked to her since.
I'm not okay with her treating my family like that and it's something I thought she would never do. I don't want awkward energy in the house, but I can't stand to be around her right now. I don't know how to start a productive conversation about the way she's been treating people because she can be very defensive. Does anyone know how to go about having that conversation or what to say? I really appreciate it :)
2023.06.02 06:46 Mrgosh001 She left me and I know it’s her lost it it still hurts
I proposed today after I finally got approved for buying my house to own and my first brand new car and money to support her and her kid I was homeless through out the relationship and wasn’t in the best place but she was there for me for 3 years through it all and when I finally turned it around I thought knew that if she loved me through my worst she’s the one to keep as things finally turned around but she told me she didn’t feel the same and wanted the old me that was dependent on her when through out the whole relationship she said she wanted better for me and I even wanted better for me it hurts cause now that life’s turning around and I’m doing good financially is when she doesn’t want to share my life with me I never cheated or lied actually I was sometimes too honest but I rather give my all to someone I thought was giving there all too now I’m left with everything I need in life house car great job and money but the biggest hole is love
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2023.06.02 06:45 ac2334 Epic “Does It Run” Thread
My goal - to get every game from my expansive library to run. Going to post my findings to this thread as I make discoveries.
About me - a savvy tinkerer who has many years of computing and modding experience.
I will be updating this thread frequently and invite others to add what has worked for them as well as new games I haven’t gotten to yet.
Dissatisfied with protondb (although a very useful site), I decided to start a post since I am testing hundreds of games and having many successes. The fixes/guidelines will be shorthand but just ask here and I will reply with additional details.
Note: everything here is done manually and does not rely on Heroic, Lutris, etc. Unless otherwise noted, all games perform perfectly fine and run impressively.
One last note as to what to expect from this thread - all games discussed are games that I purchased myself - I aspire to have my entire gaming collection running on the deck, to include many exotic games that need to be ripped from cds such as Splinter Cell Pandora Tomorrow and Quantum of Solace, Bloodstone and 007 Legends (James Bond games), lesser-known games like Pariah, clever fixes borrowing from the hard work of others (who will be properly credited) for games like The Chronicles of Riddick…absolutely no emulation will be discussed here.
Enjoy!
(just a few points of mention to those who have trouble with the list below…. 1: I don’t skimp on microSD card quality, I would highly recommend reading reviews and making sure the card you buy is authentic and rated fast enough for the deck. 2. ext4 is advised, certain games will not run at all on ntfs (though some do) 3. I use my deck around the home and this means I am often connected to power when I play, keep that in mind) 4. get familiar with the compdata and shadercache folders and use steamdb.info to get the correct steam game ids - often deleting old prefixes by deleting the entire folder for a particular game can resolve issues…you can also use the dev mode feature to delete all proton files from within the settings for a particular steam game)
Working OOTB: standard testing is launching game and playing it for about 5 minutes as I have a lot of games to test :)
Space Horror: System Shock 2023 Alien Isolation Aliens Fireteam Elite
Horror: Resident Evil 0 - force GE 7-49
Resident Evil Remastered - edited config to add fullscreen in desktop mode, but regardless, it works with cutscenes and all
Resident Evil 2 Resident Evil 3 Resident Evil 4 Resident Evil 5 Resident Evil 6 Resident Evil 7 Resident Evil 8 Outlast 1, 2 and Trials The Evil Within 1 & 2 Withering Rooms Stasis Cayne Bone Totem Horror Tales - The Wine Visage The Dark Pictures Anthology (Man of Medan, Little Hope, House of Ashes & Devil Inside Me) Dead Space (2023) The Callisto Protocol Amnesia, Final Revelations, A Machine for Pigs, Rebirth & Demo for upcoming The Bunker Soma
Fighting: Mortal Kombat 10 & 11 Street Fighter 30th Anniversary Killer Instinct Dead or Alive 5 Core Fighters - force GE 8-3, command line: PROTON_NO_ESYNC=1 PROTON_NO_FSYNC=1 %command%
Cyberpunk: Cyberpunk 2077 Deus Ex Mankind Divided
Dungeon CrawleRPG: being tested..
List of all Epic games working under GE Proton 8-3:
Dead Island 2 Mechwarrior 5 Worl War Z Rime Saints Row 3 Remastered Disco Elysium Manifold Garden Maneater The Captain Red Lantern F.I.S.T. - Forged In Shadow Torch Ancestors The Messenger Stories Untold Salt & Sacrifice Demon’s Tilt Ape Out Absolute Drift Beyond Blue Evo Legendary Collection
List of all Battle.net games working under GE Proton 8-3:
Diablo 2, 3 & 4
List of all Ubisoft games…in process
List of all Origin games….in process
List of all GOG games….in process
Tarkov yep, being tested
Star Citizen yep, being tested
Dual boot Windows 10 games (Modern Warfare 2, Cold War, etc.) yep, being tested
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About me - a savvy tinkerer who has many years of computing and modding experience.
I will be updating this thread frequently and invite others to add what has worked for them as well as new games I haven’t gotten to yet.
Dissatisfied with protondb (although a very useful site), I decided to start a post since I am testing hundreds of games and having many successes. The fixes/guidelines will be shorthand but just ask here and I will reply with additional details.
Note: everything here is done manually and does not rely on Heroic, Lutris, etc. Unless otherwise noted, all games perform perfectly fine and run impressively.
One last note as to what to expect from this thread - all games discussed are games that I purchased myself - I aspire to have my entire gaming collection running on the deck, to include many exotic games that need to be ripped from cds such as Splinter Cell Pandora Tomorrow and Quantum of Solace, Bloodstone and 007 Legends (James Bond games), lesser-known games like Pariah, clever fixes borrowing from the hard work of others (who will be properly credited) for games like The Chronicles of Riddick…absolutely no emulation will be discussed here.
Enjoy!
- PC Building Simulator 2 (Epic): Proton 7.0 RC6 GE-1 + protontricks (xact + registry resolution edits), ESYNC & FSYNC disabled & added as command line arguments to both Steam shortcut and within Epic
- Warhammer 40,000 Boltgun: Proton 7.0 RC6 GE-1 - (fixes cutscenes not playing)
(just a few points of mention to those who have trouble with the list below…. 1: I don’t skimp on microSD card quality, I would highly recommend reading reviews and making sure the card you buy is authentic and rated fast enough for the deck. 2. ext4 is advised, certain games will not run at all on ntfs (though some do) 3. I use my deck around the home and this means I am often connected to power when I play, keep that in mind) 4. get familiar with the compdata and shadercache folders and use steamdb.info to get the correct steam game ids - often deleting old prefixes by deleting the entire folder for a particular game can resolve issues…you can also use the dev mode feature to delete all proton files from within the settings for a particular steam game)
Working OOTB: standard testing is launching game and playing it for about 5 minutes as I have a lot of games to test :)
Space Horror: System Shock 2023 Alien Isolation Aliens Fireteam Elite
Horror: Resident Evil 0 - force GE 7-49
Resident Evil Remastered - edited config to add fullscreen in desktop mode, but regardless, it works with cutscenes and all
Resident Evil 2 Resident Evil 3 Resident Evil 4 Resident Evil 5 Resident Evil 6 Resident Evil 7 Resident Evil 8 Outlast 1, 2 and Trials The Evil Within 1 & 2 Withering Rooms Stasis Cayne Bone Totem Horror Tales - The Wine Visage The Dark Pictures Anthology (Man of Medan, Little Hope, House of Ashes & Devil Inside Me) Dead Space (2023) The Callisto Protocol Amnesia, Final Revelations, A Machine for Pigs, Rebirth & Demo for upcoming The Bunker Soma
Fighting: Mortal Kombat 10 & 11 Street Fighter 30th Anniversary Killer Instinct Dead or Alive 5 Core Fighters - force GE 8-3, command line: PROTON_NO_ESYNC=1 PROTON_NO_FSYNC=1 %command%
Cyberpunk: Cyberpunk 2077 Deus Ex Mankind Divided
Dungeon CrawleRPG: being tested..
List of all Epic games working under GE Proton 8-3:
Dead Island 2 Mechwarrior 5 Worl War Z Rime Saints Row 3 Remastered Disco Elysium Manifold Garden Maneater The Captain Red Lantern F.I.S.T. - Forged In Shadow Torch Ancestors The Messenger Stories Untold Salt & Sacrifice Demon’s Tilt Ape Out Absolute Drift Beyond Blue Evo Legendary Collection
List of all Battle.net games working under GE Proton 8-3:
Diablo 2, 3 & 4
List of all Ubisoft games…in process
List of all Origin games….in process
List of all GOG games….in process
Tarkov yep, being tested
Star Citizen yep, being tested
Dual boot Windows 10 games (Modern Warfare 2, Cold War, etc.) yep, being tested
2023.06.02 06:43 manchapson 41 and just existing
I don't know why I'm writing this. I've written a similar post before a few months back. Maybe I'm just looking to affirm I'm not the only one who has been or currently is in this kind of headspace. Maybe looking to break the monotony of my life for a few brief minutes. I have no financial worries particularly. I have a decent job that whilst I don't love it I certainly don't hate it. It's pretty much as secure as any job can be these days and pays well. The hours suit my lifestyle and the guys I work with are generally sound. I own my own house and will be mortgage free very soon. I don't think I'm particularly ugly and I'm generally fit and healthy. I can get on well with nearly anybody on a superficial level. In many ways I'm very privileged and I don't underestimate the value of that. But that's it. There is nothing more in my life. 6 months ago my relationship that I thought would be 'the one' ended in the most brutal soul crushing manner. I thought we would marry and I would finally be a dad but it wasn't to be. I apparently wasn't enough for her. She left, taking my step son and the dog and I'm left with the cat (who I never liked particularly but she's grown on me). I do have friends but very few live close by, and they're married with kids and have their own lives to lead. I live on the other side of the world from my tiny remaining family (brothedad) but I was never very close to those to be honest. All the family I was close to have died. I've tried to start dating, but at my age it's kind of a shit show to be honest. Everyone has issues and we're all kind of broken. I'm trying to keep my hopes up that'll I'll meet someone but it's tough. I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that my chances of becoming a dad are getting less and less. It's obviously not impossible, but that window is slowly closing. Again I haven't lost hope but it's something I'm actively preparing myself for. Previously at dark points in my life I've turned to alcohol, and whilst I've managed to control it and get out of those dark places relatively unscathed, I'm making a conscious effort to not go there this time in case I can't escape it again. So far I'm being successful. There is more but I'm trying to not let this descend into a completely self pitying ramble. I'm trying to get myself out of this funk, organising things to look forward to and not turning down offers to go be social etc. My next consideration is therapy, something I would never previously have considered but I know I have to do something. If you've made it this far congratulations and thank you. I know it's not particularly interesting or coherent. Just my thoughts spewed out on a page. Hopefully my next year will be better than my last.
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2023.06.02 06:43 Glum-Reading4632 Water from bathtub backing into toilet, send help
Background info: bought a house July 2021, it has a septic tank, it was pumped when we closed on the house. We kept noticing sewer smell when we would shower and when standing outside by the opening to the septic but put a bit of caulking and small amount of dirt around the lid and that problem stopped. The lid is right outside the bathroom window. The lid is just cement on cement with no rubber seal so we thought that's why it smelled but I'm putting it here in case it should've been a red flag from the beginning. Our house was built in 1970. It's a slab foundation. We are a family of four, and I also cloth diaper, so although we've had kids in diapers the solids actually still go into our toilet. The plumbing fixtures go from the tank into the house in this order: bathtub, toilet, bathroom sink, washer, and kitchen sink.
Current problem. Yesterday we ran a bath for the kids, when the bath was drained water started going all over the floor. We couldn't figure out where at first and then saw it was coming under the toilet. We thought it was just the incoming water so we shut it off and the water kept coming out, puddle was big enough I ended up stepping in it and realized the water was warm. So it was going from the tub drain over into the toilet. The wax ring on the bottom of the toilet broke and so the water came out of there. I ended up flushing the toilet after just to see what would happen and the toilet flushed fine but the water came out the bottom again. We ran and got a wax ring, put that sucker on and tried to flush again and it was fine. I took a short shower later that night (5-10 min) and let the tub fill up with my shower water and then drained it all at once at the end to try to "recreate" the situation. Nothing happened and everything drained fine.
Tonight I went to shower and took a longer shower (15-20 min) the whole time the tub was draining totally fine, at a normal speed etc. I didn't notice anything wrong. I get out and theres a pool of water under the toilet again. So another wax ring broken? But more importantly what the f...the puddle was pretty small compared to yesterday, and I probably used more water than I did for the tub.
We pulled the lid on the septic tank and it looks at the same level it always looks? But I'm guessing there's SOMETHING wrong with it because if we just had a clog in the drain wouldn't it drain slowly or 90% of the water would be coming on the bathroom floor and not just a tiny bit toward the end of the shower?
I will obviously be calling someone to pump the tank tomorrow morning but in the meantime I'm really freaking out because I'm worried our drain field has failed or something. I thought you only needed to pump a septic every 3-5 years? Not every 2? Also we do use baby wipes but I make sure to tell everyone not to put them down the drain, when we clean the kids butts we throw the wipes away in the garage separately and then wash the diapers in the toilet. I know a few wipes have been down the septic since we've moved in due to forgetting to tell MIL, but she doesn't spend a ton of time pooping at our house or changing the kids so that would be insanely minimal (like maybe 10 wipes in the last two years I'd think?).
I can provide as much other info if needed, I just am not sure what I'm missing. We will obviously be replacing the wax ring again...any help here in trouble shooting is appreciated
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Current problem. Yesterday we ran a bath for the kids, when the bath was drained water started going all over the floor. We couldn't figure out where at first and then saw it was coming under the toilet. We thought it was just the incoming water so we shut it off and the water kept coming out, puddle was big enough I ended up stepping in it and realized the water was warm. So it was going from the tub drain over into the toilet. The wax ring on the bottom of the toilet broke and so the water came out of there. I ended up flushing the toilet after just to see what would happen and the toilet flushed fine but the water came out the bottom again. We ran and got a wax ring, put that sucker on and tried to flush again and it was fine. I took a short shower later that night (5-10 min) and let the tub fill up with my shower water and then drained it all at once at the end to try to "recreate" the situation. Nothing happened and everything drained fine.
Tonight I went to shower and took a longer shower (15-20 min) the whole time the tub was draining totally fine, at a normal speed etc. I didn't notice anything wrong. I get out and theres a pool of water under the toilet again. So another wax ring broken? But more importantly what the f...the puddle was pretty small compared to yesterday, and I probably used more water than I did for the tub.
We pulled the lid on the septic tank and it looks at the same level it always looks? But I'm guessing there's SOMETHING wrong with it because if we just had a clog in the drain wouldn't it drain slowly or 90% of the water would be coming on the bathroom floor and not just a tiny bit toward the end of the shower?
I will obviously be calling someone to pump the tank tomorrow morning but in the meantime I'm really freaking out because I'm worried our drain field has failed or something. I thought you only needed to pump a septic every 3-5 years? Not every 2? Also we do use baby wipes but I make sure to tell everyone not to put them down the drain, when we clean the kids butts we throw the wipes away in the garage separately and then wash the diapers in the toilet. I know a few wipes have been down the septic since we've moved in due to forgetting to tell MIL, but she doesn't spend a ton of time pooping at our house or changing the kids so that would be insanely minimal (like maybe 10 wipes in the last two years I'd think?).
I can provide as much other info if needed, I just am not sure what I'm missing. We will obviously be replacing the wax ring again...any help here in trouble shooting is appreciated
2023.06.02 06:42 iEat_Ass666 How do you approach a gf that left you?
I was with my ex for 5 years and she left me 6 months ago. I have improved my life over all. Started hitting the gym, getting a better paying job. Bought the car I wanted. I have also got in a new relationship (thought it would help) but nope. I can’t get over her. Two weeks ago, she wished me a happy birthday a day before my birthday and I told her thank you and she just hearted the message. Does that mean she misses me? why would she massage me? I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to text her because it will seem as am desperate for her and it’s not a good look.
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2023.06.02 06:41 RedStag86 $5k, looking for a used vehicle with cargo space
My 2008 Ford Escape probably needs a new engine if I want it to stop pouring oil all over the place, so I'm beginning to look at used car options. I have a budget of around $5,000, give or take. The Escape has an estimated trade in value of only $675, FWIW.
A main need is climate controlled cargo space. I am in video production professionally, so I do need to haul gear fairly regularly. A pickup truck is not an option because much of my gear doesn't love the cold Ohio winters. My Escape had what I would consider the baseline minimum amount of cargo space when the seats are down. I'm also 6'4", and honestly I don't think I could be physically comfortable in anything smaller than the Escape, either. Also going to need to put two car seats in it from time to time. Opposite of all that, I don’t really want a monster SUV like a Suburban size vehicle that is going to guzzle gas. Just something in the middle.
I also want something that is fairly reliable. Apart from the leak, the V6 in my Escape has performed admirably. I would not feel comfortable dropping down lower than 6 cylinders, both for power and general reliability and longevity. I'm surprised my Ford has done so well (about to hit 200,000 miles), but I need something more bulletproof. I know my budget is low, so that means older high mileage vehicles. Whatever I buy needs to perform well past 200,000 miles.
What currently has my attention is the Volvo XC70. The size, reliability, engine options and all wheel drive that I'm seeing in my price range for a 2008-2011 high millable (170,000-200,000 miles) model seem to fit the bill. If anyone has any personal experience with this model, any advice would be helpful, especially if you could tell me how easy they are to work on. I am by no means a mechanic, but I did manage to replace the alternator on our 2013 Honda Odyssey on my own. It took a while, but I did it. I am somewhat comfortable doing this level of work, but I don't intend to be taking engines apart or anything like that. Repair costs with a Volvo have be worried, but I would make sure anything I buy has a clean bill of health, so hopefully major issues won't arise.
I'd love to hear any additional recommendations for vehicles that fit these requirements. Just by reliability reputation alone, I'm interested in Toyota and Honda SUVs, Volvo,. No mini vans, please. We already have one and I'd rather have more variety in usability in our driveway.
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A main need is climate controlled cargo space. I am in video production professionally, so I do need to haul gear fairly regularly. A pickup truck is not an option because much of my gear doesn't love the cold Ohio winters. My Escape had what I would consider the baseline minimum amount of cargo space when the seats are down. I'm also 6'4", and honestly I don't think I could be physically comfortable in anything smaller than the Escape, either. Also going to need to put two car seats in it from time to time. Opposite of all that, I don’t really want a monster SUV like a Suburban size vehicle that is going to guzzle gas. Just something in the middle.
I also want something that is fairly reliable. Apart from the leak, the V6 in my Escape has performed admirably. I would not feel comfortable dropping down lower than 6 cylinders, both for power and general reliability and longevity. I'm surprised my Ford has done so well (about to hit 200,000 miles), but I need something more bulletproof. I know my budget is low, so that means older high mileage vehicles. Whatever I buy needs to perform well past 200,000 miles.
What currently has my attention is the Volvo XC70. The size, reliability, engine options and all wheel drive that I'm seeing in my price range for a 2008-2011 high millable (170,000-200,000 miles) model seem to fit the bill. If anyone has any personal experience with this model, any advice would be helpful, especially if you could tell me how easy they are to work on. I am by no means a mechanic, but I did manage to replace the alternator on our 2013 Honda Odyssey on my own. It took a while, but I did it. I am somewhat comfortable doing this level of work, but I don't intend to be taking engines apart or anything like that. Repair costs with a Volvo have be worried, but I would make sure anything I buy has a clean bill of health, so hopefully major issues won't arise.
I'd love to hear any additional recommendations for vehicles that fit these requirements. Just by reliability reputation alone, I'm interested in Toyota and Honda SUVs, Volvo,. No mini vans, please. We already have one and I'd rather have more variety in usability in our driveway.
2023.06.02 06:41 username_choose_you Failing on every front
Been a SAHD for 9 years and I feel like I’m failing at every aspect.
My wife has a very busy and demanding job and as a result, has no energy, patience or time to help in any way at home. All child activities fall to me, house maintenance, pet care, book keeping, home improvements, scheduling, bills, investing etc falls on me. All shopping, food prep and planning is me. She hasn’t cooked a dinner in 10 years She also increasingly has me support her business but things fall through the cracks. It’s relentless and sacrifices constantly happen because time is just so limited.
We have 2 kids with ASD and I also manage all their care as well.
Today she told me I’m taking advantage of the situation and that I’m failing the family. She has nothing but contempt for me and I don’t support her.
How do people keep doing this? Giving their all and still , it’s not enough.
My kids are going to have high needs their whole lives and without her job, I don’t know what I would do.
I feel adrift at sea and really hope something improves.
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My wife has a very busy and demanding job and as a result, has no energy, patience or time to help in any way at home. All child activities fall to me, house maintenance, pet care, book keeping, home improvements, scheduling, bills, investing etc falls on me. All shopping, food prep and planning is me. She hasn’t cooked a dinner in 10 years She also increasingly has me support her business but things fall through the cracks. It’s relentless and sacrifices constantly happen because time is just so limited.
We have 2 kids with ASD and I also manage all their care as well.
Today she told me I’m taking advantage of the situation and that I’m failing the family. She has nothing but contempt for me and I don’t support her.
How do people keep doing this? Giving their all and still , it’s not enough.
My kids are going to have high needs their whole lives and without her job, I don’t know what I would do.
I feel adrift at sea and really hope something improves.
2023.06.02 06:39 Olibr_Resourcing_LTD Will AI Replace Humans in the IT Industry? Which AI Companies will be Around in 2023?
 | submitted by Olibr_Resourcing_LTD to u/Olibr_Resourcing_LTD [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/ex46g4m4aj3b1.jpg?width=973&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0832ec39b433c5db6ed2be18b4e961484ca330dd IntroductionThe rapid advancements in artificial intelligence (AI) have sparked numerous discussions and debates about its potential impact on various industries, particularly the IT industry. With AI's ability to automate tasks, process data at incredible speeds, and make intelligent decisions, many wonder if it will eventually replace humans in the IT sector. This topic has garnered significant attention as professionals and experts analyze the potential consequences and opportunities that AI brings to the industry.Will AI Replace Humans in the IT Industry?The question of whether AI will replace humans in the IT industry is a subject of ongoing debate and speculation. While AI has made significant advancements in recent years, it is important to consider the following points:
Jobs that will be Impacted the Most Due to AIThe advent of AI technology has the potential to impact various job sectors in different ways. While it is difficult to predict the exact extent and timeline of these impacts, here are some job sectors that could be significantly affected by AI:
Overall, the impact of AI on jobs will vary across industries and job sectors. It is crucial for individuals to adapt and acquire new skills that complement AI technology to remain competitive in the evolving job market. Which AI Companies will be Around in 2023?The top 10 Artificial Intelligence companies are:1. OPENAI OpenAI is a renowned and influential AI research organization known for its contributions to the field of artificial intelligence. They have developed advanced language models such as GPT-3 (Generative Pre-trained Transformer 3), which has demonstrated impressive capabilities in natural language processing and text generation. OpenAI aims to ensure that artificial general intelligence (AGI) benefits all of humanity and promotes responsible and ethical AI development. 2. DeepMind DeepMind, a subsidiary of Alphabet Inc. (Google's parent company), has been at the forefront of AI research and innovation. They are known for developing AlphaGo, an AI system that defeated world champion Go players, showcasing the potential of AI in complex games. DeepMind focuses on developing AI systems that can tackle real-world challenges, such as healthcare, energy efficiency, and scientific research, by combining deep learning, reinforcement learning, and other techniques. 3. Builder.AI Builder.AI is an AI-powered platform that enables the rapid development and deployment of customized software applications. Their platform uses AI algorithms to automate the coding process, allowing businesses and developers to build software applications with minimal coding expertise. Builder.AI's approach empowers organizations to accelerate software development, reduce costs, and bring their ideas to market more quickly. 4. Abnormal Security Abnormal Security is an AI-based cybersecurity company that specializes in protecting organizations from email attacks and social engineering threats. Their platform leverages machine learning algorithms to analyze email communication patterns, detect anomalies, and identify malicious activities. Abnormal Security's AI-powered solution enhances email security and helps organizations proactively defend against evolving cyber threats. 5. Speechmatics Speechmatics is an innovative company focused on automatic speech recognition (ASR) technology. They have developed advanced AI models and algorithms that can convert spoken language into written text accurately and in real-time. Their ASR technology finds applications in various industries, including transcription services, voice assistants, call centers, and media and entertainment, enabling improved accessibility and enhanced user experiences.
7. PANO AI PANO AI develops AI-powered software solutions for the construction industry. Their platform utilizes computer vision and deep learning techniques to automate the analysis of construction site images, monitoring progress, detecting anomalies, and ensuring compliance with safety standards. PANO AI's innovative approach helps construction companies streamline operations, reduce costs, and enhance project management efficiency. 8. SIGNIFYD Signifyd is an innovative company that utilizes AI technology to deliver advanced fraud protection solutions for e-commerce businesses. By harnessing the power of machine learning and predictive analytics, Signifyd enables merchants to identify and mitigate fraud in real-time, reducing false positives and automating manual review efforts. Their commitment to innovation and the application of AI has positioned them as a leading player in the industry, helping businesses safeguard their operations and enhance customer trust. 9. NVIDIA NVIDIA is a technology company known for its advancements in graphics processing units (GPUs) and their applications in AI and deep learning. Their GPUs are widely used in AI training and inference, enabling high-performance computing for complex AI algorithms. NVIDIA also develops software frameworks, such as CUDA and cuDNN, that facilitate AI development and optimization on their hardware platforms. 10.VOXEL Voxel is an AI company specializing in computer vision and augmented reality (AR) technologies. They develop AI-powered solutions that enable real-time object recognition, tracking, and interaction in AR environments. Voxel's innovative applications find use cases in areas such as retail, advertising, gaming, and industrial training, providing immersive and interactive experiences. These companies mentioned above are recognized for their innovative approaches in applying AI technologies across various domains, pushing the boundaries of what is possible and contributing to the advancement of the AI industry as a whole. ConclusionThe IT industry is on the brink of significant transformations driven by artificial intelligence (AI). AI has the potential to revolutionize multiple aspects of the industry through its ability to automate tasks and process large amounts of data efficiently. This automation enables human professionals to focus on higher-value activities that require creativity and critical thinking, fostering innovation and boosting operational performance. While AI excels in specific domains, human expertise remains essential, particularly in complex problem-solving and human interaction. The integration of AI will create new job opportunities, requiring professionals with expertise in machine learning, data science, and AI ethics. Responsible development and regulation of AI are crucial for addressing ethical considerations and ensuring fairness and transparency. The successful integration of AI in the IT industry hinges on a collaborative approach, with AI augmenting human capabilities to drive innovation and shape the industry's future while preserving the unique skills humans bring to the table. |
2023.06.02 06:38 ajoyr17 I (F18) don't want to be too controlling over my boyfriend (M18), but I really want more time to talk to him
TLDR: My boyfriend is moving soon and won't be able to see his friends nearly as much once he moves, but it means we can only call for a little each day because of all the time he spends with his friends.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months now and spent almost all day every day of that time together. We met in college, so of course now that we are on summer break, we are long distance. Going from like 8 hours a day together in person to maybe 1-2 hours over call has been a stark transition and we both miss each other a lot.
The problem is, we would be able to call a lot more if he weren't spending so much time with his friends. He agrees that his friends are not the best influence and that he should be spending more time on activities that are better for him, so I thought it would be good if he limited the time spent with his friends to 3 days a week. He was iffy at first, but agreed. I haven't kept track of if he's been following this exactly, but all I know is that there has not been a single day yet where he was actually able to call for more than 2 hours in a day. I was really upset today because we would have finally had a chance to call for the whole afternoon, but then he made plans with his friends, so I was left alone. He is very kind and apologetic, but I just feel hurt that he seems to prioritize his friends over me.
BUT at the same time, he should be able to spend a lot of time with them because soon, he won't be able to see them hardly at all because he is moving. I wish I could be more carefree about him being with his friends more, but I am just having a hard time only being able to talk to him for such a small part of the day, given the amount of time together we used to spend before (and not to mention, even though his friends definitely aren't bad people, they're just not good influences).
Do you advise that I let him spend time with his friends more? If I do, how do you recommend I avoid getting so upset when he chooses to hang out with them instead of call me?
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months now and spent almost all day every day of that time together. We met in college, so of course now that we are on summer break, we are long distance. Going from like 8 hours a day together in person to maybe 1-2 hours over call has been a stark transition and we both miss each other a lot.
The problem is, we would be able to call a lot more if he weren't spending so much time with his friends. He agrees that his friends are not the best influence and that he should be spending more time on activities that are better for him, so I thought it would be good if he limited the time spent with his friends to 3 days a week. He was iffy at first, but agreed. I haven't kept track of if he's been following this exactly, but all I know is that there has not been a single day yet where he was actually able to call for more than 2 hours in a day. I was really upset today because we would have finally had a chance to call for the whole afternoon, but then he made plans with his friends, so I was left alone. He is very kind and apologetic, but I just feel hurt that he seems to prioritize his friends over me.
BUT at the same time, he should be able to spend a lot of time with them because soon, he won't be able to see them hardly at all because he is moving. I wish I could be more carefree about him being with his friends more, but I am just having a hard time only being able to talk to him for such a small part of the day, given the amount of time together we used to spend before (and not to mention, even though his friends definitely aren't bad people, they're just not good influences).
Do you advise that I let him spend time with his friends more? If I do, how do you recommend I avoid getting so upset when he chooses to hang out with them instead of call me?