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2009.10.18 21:53 davedavedavedavedave Nursing for nurses and by nurses for the care of all.

A place to discuss the topics of concern to the nurses of reddit. All are welcome.

2012.04.29 00:56 Irunongames Emergency Medicine

/emergencymedicine is a subreddit for healthcare providers in the emergency setting to discuss their encounters and find ways to improve their knowledge of various parts of EM.

2021.05.26 04:11 thekategatsby161 EndoAus

A place to talk about doctors, the health care system and living with endo in Australia. This is a Trans friendly page and know that you don’t have to be a woman to have endo.

2023.06.02 06:34 agoldenbell Wellbutrin, Abilify & Adderall?

Over the last few months I’ve been meeting with a psychologist that has helped me a lot, but she felt I needed medication for my bipolar II (which I agreed with!) so she referred me to a NP for medication. The NP is really nice, listens to every concern, and takes everything my psychologist suggests seriously. After getting to know her, and her looking over my chart, doing a few assessments etc she determines that I also have ADD on top of bipolar II. She prescribed me Welbutrin 150mg, once a day, and Mirtazipine lowest dose (I think 7.5?) for night time. I reacted well to the medicine but still needed more help (my psychologist’s words, hers, and mine) so as of today, she also prescribed me a low dose of Abilify and a low dose of Adderall.
I haven’t taken the new medicines yet because my pharmacy didn’t fill them today. I’ve looked up these new medicines combined with what I’m currently taking and found the results to be pretty scary, honestly. What reassures me is that I am taking low doses of all of the above, but is there still grounds for concern? Should I not be mixing Abilify, Adderall and Wellbutrin? I’ve read things like seizures, irritation, and even weight loss can occur (I’m already underweight as it is.) Does anyone here have experience taking these medications together?
Note: I do not plan to quit any medications or anything drastic like that, and I will absolutely be in touch with my health care team to keep them all updated on my concerns, issues etc. but I thought it would also be good to talk to the regular folks like me who might have first hand experience taking these medications. Thank you so much to who ever takes the time to read this, I appreciate any words of advice or solidarity.
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2023.06.02 06:33 caffeine1106 Ultrasonic sensitivity

I have an unexplained issue that started years ago after I purchased the Samsung galaxy note 2, circa 2011. I started noticing that my new Bluetooth headset started to give me an earache that increased in pain each time I used it. I blamed the headset and switched to the handset for phone calls. Then, when I was holding it near (not up against) my ear, it started to hurt just the same as the Bluetooth earbud, even at the lowest volume setting. So, I switched ears and the same pain started to develop in my other ear. I tried speaker phone, and even this started to hurt my ears at the lowest volume setting. Not like a general discomfort, but outright stabbing pain if I’m exposed for a more than a few minutes. It has a cumulative effect that takes hours/days to dissipate. I went to the ent specialist doctor and found no issues with my ear - I had/have great hearing, actually.
I blamed the phone, so I purchased a new phone, the moto edge (I think that’s what it was called), same pain, then exchanged to Sony Xperia Z, all gave me same piercing pain in my inner ear area.
I could no longer listen to audio on these phones - no phone calls, no watching videos with audio on, and if I’m even in the same room as someone using phones like those I’ve described, the pain will come. It’s not a pain that is instantly recognizable but develops over the course of a minute or two before I can feel it in earnest, then it just builds from there. After a few minutes if I stop I’ll only have a migraine/earache feeling the remainder of that day, if longer, then it could persist into the following day.
Here is where it gets weirder. I purchased a 2015 ford fiesta - I was so excited to have a new car. The car stereo caused the exact same pain when the stereo was on! I was so desperate to listen to music I would even put an ear plug in my right ear (because it was worse/more sensitive than my left) and listen at the lowest volume. They even weirder part is that it would cause pain just from being turned on, even with the volume set to zero! This was truly perplexing.
Ever since these developments over the last 11-13 years I’ve been careful what speakers I’m around.
Still, to this day, I can’t use these phones previously described.
As of about two years ago I discovered my iPhone XS has been tolerable on low volume settings. If I turn the volume beyond 50% the pain was build up. I can also use Samsung Galaxy buds on <= 50% volume without triggering discomfort.
I suspect I have some kind of ultrasonic sensitivity that most people do not have, and whatever technologies that started being put in many small speakers 12-14 years ago triggers this pain.
Are there others in the medical community who have seen or heard of this before? Thank you!
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2023.06.02 06:30 hiarcracing Bronchitis not getting better after two weeks, 53M

Hello all, writing this about my dad who’s had what we’re told is bronchitis for about two weeks now. It started two weeks ago with normal cold symptoms, sore throat, congestion, light cough.
Unfortunately, it seemed to take hold in his respiratory system pretty quickly, and he developed a nasty cough with wheezing. He was in the ER twice last week because he was unable to catch his breath and his blood oxygen dropped to 90 momentarily at home. The doctors there said his lungs sound and look okay, and they gave him some breathing treatments along with an albuterol inhaler and sent him home. Neither one helped, and he’s been in and out of urgent care a few times since then. He completed a course of prednisone and a Z-pack as well since then, but the cough remains and he says there’s been no improvement.
So currently he’s got coughing fits about every minute, and coughing up mucus as well. He’s slightly better while he’s asleep, but he still wakes up coughing a few times a night. We took his pulse oxygen a few times today, and it ranged between 91 and 95, but it never was below 93 for long. We’re all exhausted, and I’m anxious that it’s not bronchitis and is instead something worse. He is reluctant to go to the doctor because he feels they’ve tried everything and he’s not getting better. What are our options here?
Thank you in advance 🙏🏻
For reference, he’s a 53 yo M, ~180lbs, 6’0, on beta blockers for high blood pressure. Of note, he might have damaged some of his airways from years of being a firefighter. One doctor said he likely has reactive airway dysfunction syndrome but another disagreed
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2023.06.02 06:28 Swordsboy Best way to research moving?

I live in a red state in the US that is quickly becoming more dangerous and that I will likely need to seriously flee in the next couple years. At the moment, doctors can refuse care to me if they discover I am trans (I see a very amazing doctor out of a pride network, but I did have a biking accident about a year ago where I did need to research hospitals slightly panicked “what if they are not trans friendly?). Laws are being discussed at banning trans people from using bathrooms at all school levels, including adults, and bans on gender affirming care are constantly being discussed. I’ve never felt particularly connected or at home in my own state or country, and I’ve been wanting to move away most of my whole life.
For years I’ve been wanting to move to UK, England, when I’m able - I had the idea of going to grad school for a master’s over there, and working out a way to keep a visa as I went along. But I’ve seen so much transphobia rising there at a slower pace than us, and I cannot help but think if I did manage to get to the country I’ve wanted to be a part of for so long, I would very quickly be unwelcome.
I started some research on Canada and short of not being able to afford a move there just yet, it does seem incredibly trans friendly. I’m also looking into France simply because I read the language well and understand a little spoken, but I’m in the dark about politics and society over there.
But I also know that when things get bad here soon, I’ll want to at least move states to a blue, safer one until I can leave the country for real. I don’t have many friends IRL or online anymore these days, or at least not any close enough to ask about their states/countries. I also don’t have a great support system now so moving would have to be done on my own, and it makes researching seem more scary I guess.
I’ve been wondering if there’s a place somewhere where trans people are comparing options or able to talk about where they live and how to get there, if they live in a safe place. If there’s some kind of easy to follow help on how to start looking into moving and affording it. I think on lists of safety resources for trans people, this sort of thing should be more common :(
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2023.06.02 06:26 corydixon12 25 m4f Sacramento, ca/west coast

Here goes nothing. First off I’m terrible at these things so I’ll try my best. A little about me: I’m a super caring person, love hanging out with friends, dog lover, thoughtful, struggling with some mental health stuff right now but trying. I am super shy but will open to the right people and become an open book after. Some of my hobbies are, fishing, reading, racing, hiking, relaxing, video games, etc Im looking to meet my special someone and start a life together. Would prefer someone who is close to me but am open to LDR for the right person. Feel free to message me and tell me a little bit about yourself. Looking forward to talking to you guys soon!
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2023.06.02 06:26 Classic_Carpenter_10 Permanent Closure of the Sun Medical Clinic in Stettler, AB

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2023.06.02 06:25 DetectiveRoyal3377 thinking about dying

No one really cares about me. My brother and I had a fight and mom is on his side. She and I are also fighting now. I want to run away from home but I know I can't. She just texted me threatening me to send me somewhere (for practicing religion) if I don't apologize and forgive. That asshole was in the wrong but he never apologized. My parents are the most toxic people I know. They're "religious and conservative". I'm starting to lose my religion and myself because of them. I'm not very religious but my faith in God had always been strong. I've been to one of those places they're going to send me to for 2 months, I liked it a bit there but I don't want to go back and stay there for years. The place is very secured, I felt like being on house arrest. I want to go to school, do well, graduate, get a job as a doctor or an accountant, maybe start a life with someone, travel, and many other things. If I stay there for years, I'll have to reconnect with the world when I leave. I became suicidal when I was 10-12. I thought about actually doing it many times but grandpa became my reason to continue living. He was the only one who praised and encouraged me to do my best in school. After his passing when I was 13, I stopped. My arms have been clean for years now and I'm thinking about doing it again. I've been crying since yesterday.
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2023.06.02 06:20 jkd43 Remission or Cured?

So, I've got my A1c down from 11.8 to 5.2 through keto and exercise. All the health issues I was having a year ago are gone. I've read that with diabetes the beta cells in your pancreas can become permanently wonky and you can never really be "cured" unless you intervene early. How do you know if you're in the "cured" group or the "I have to strictly manage this for the rest of my life" group? Is there some kind of pancreas test I could ask my doctor about? I've also heard about some kind diabetic protein urine test. What's that all about? I'm basically just wondering how I'll ever know if I can eat a pint of shrimp fried rice again without my body erupting in cysts.
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2023.06.02 06:17 Common-Lobster-1939 My 7 month journey from hell. F gastritis.

So I was diagnosed back in January of this year, however, I’ve been having the symptoms since early December. I’m 19, a female, and WAS a college student & worked full time. This diagnosis has/had completely turned my life upside down. Nausea was my #1 symptom, and was absolutely debilitating. I was on the bathroom floor every single day & night dry heaving and crying. Not to mention I have a phobia of throwing up. In this season, (December), I had no idea what was wrong. I made sure I wasn’t pregnant, etc. The night I got my first onset of symptoms I was drinking wine. That night, all hell broke loose. It was immediate. The nausea hasn’t ceased since.
Moving on to January. I had been to the hospital twice before my third visit, and all they did was prescribe me protonix, (pantoprazole), and nausea meds. The nausea meds did nothing… except cause a blockage (sever constipation… I don’t even want to talk ab it lol). & the protonix made my heart have sever palpitations, and gave me the worst side effects. My third visit landed me in there for a week, on Christmas. They only admitted me because my heart rate was resting at 150. It was the nausea and pain keeping it there, but they wouldn’t listen. They thought it was anxiety.. anyway, I had to beg them to do an endoscopy. I’ve had stomach issues my whole life, and knew it was something on the inside. Finally the results came back. They said it was mild gastritis, and consistent with “peptic duodenitis”. (Also it was H pylori neg). That’s what it said on my chart. They said my esophagus was also red and irritated, but it was from throwing up. Despite me telling the doctor I hadn’t thrown up… they wouldn’t do anything. I hadn’t eaten in over 8 days when I was there, yet they sent me home and said it had to heal on its own. (I had an actual GI doctor there btw). When I cried about not wanting to be discharged yet because I still felt like I was dying, the doctor called a psychiatrist to my room and prescribed me lexapro… let me just tell you, this journey has been a mess and mentally draining. No one would listen to my symptoms and how TERRIBLE I felt.
When I left the hospital, I began trying to eat. Mostly so I literally wouldn’t die. I stuck to saltines, and boost drinks. By the end of January, I decided enough was enough. The protonix was making me feel absolutely awful, and none of the PPI’s were helping. I did a bunch of research, went on the gastritis sub here, and got to work. I ordered zinc carnosine, slippery elm, and aloe Vera capsules. I began taking the slippery elm before every meal and bed. The zinc I took as soon as I woke up on an empty stomach like the bottle says.
Flash forward to now, I’m eating every day… which I never thought would happen. I’m still no where near healed… but we’re getting there. I had to drop out of college, and have been unable to work. I have POTS on top of this, and the gastritis has made it seem a million times worse. I passed out cold talking to my lawn guy outside last week… not my best moment, I must say. However, I’m not on the bathroom floor every night, I’m not being starved for 8 days due to nausea, and I’m in a better mindset. The toll this diagnosis takes on someone isn’t talked about enough. I’m lucky to have an amazing husband I just got married to. He’s my rock and my support system. He has taken care of me, along with taken on all the bills while I’m healing.
Friends, this is something that takes time. I’m turning 20 this month, and I have to face the fact that I won’t be able to leave the house, eat a cake, or regular food for that manner. It’ll be my banana and me. However, it could be worse. I could be where I was in January. Just know, progress will come. Even if you’re in my shoes and it comes SUPER slow. When I have really bad days, I look back to where I was 5 months ago and smile. I’m somewhere I wasn’t back then.
If you have any questions, please let me know. I didn’t go super into detail on a lot of things to save some words & reading time. - I’ve always read in this sub, but I’ve never participated. It’s hard. But it’s comforting knowing that we aren’t alone in this journey. <3
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2023.06.02 06:14 Rumil360 [EVENT] Bullae Papae: Exsurge Domine

11 June 1519 Promulgated in Brandenburg, Saxony, and the rest of Germany
Leo, bishop, servant of the servants of God, for eternal record:
Arise, O Lord, and judge your own cause. Remember your reproaches to those who are filled with foolishness all through the day. Listen to our prayers, for foxes have arisen seeking to destroy the vineyard whose winepress you alone have trod. When you were about to ascend to your Father, you committed the care, rule, and administration of the vineyard, an image of the triumphant church, to Peter, as the head and your vicar and his successors. The wild boar from the forest seeks to destroy it and every wild beast feeds upon it.
Rise, Peter, and fulfill this pastoral office divinely entrusted to you as mentioned above. Give heed to the cause of the holy Roman Church, mother of all churches and teacher of the faith, whom you by the order of God, have consecrated by your blood. Against the Roman Church, you warned, lying teachers are rising, introducing ruinous sects, and drawing upon themselves speedy doom. Their tongues are fire, a restless evil, full of deadly poison. They have bitter zeal, contention in their hearts, and boast and lie against the truth.
We beseech you also, Paul, to arise. It was you that enlightened and illuminated the Church by your doctrine and by a martyrdom like Peter’s. For now a new Porphyry rises who, as the old once wrongfully assailed the holy apostles, now assails the holy pontiffs, our predecessors.
Rebuking them, in violation of your teaching, instead of imploring them, he is not ashamed to assail them, to tear at them, and when he despairs of his cause, to stoop to insults. He is like the heretics “whose last defense,” as Jerome says, “is to start spewing out a serpent’s venom with their tongue when they see that their causes are about to be condemned, and spring to insults when they see they are vanquished.” For although you have said that there must be heresies to test the faithful, still they must be destroyed at their very birth by your intercession and help, so they do not grow or wax strong like your wolves. Finally, let the whole church of the saints and the rest of the universal church arise. Some, putting aside her true interpretation of Sacred Scripture, are blinded in mind by the father of lies. Wise in their own eyes, according to the ancient practice of heretics, they interpret these same Scriptures otherwise than the Holy Spirit demands, inspired only by their own sense of ambition, and for the sake of popular acclaim, as the Apostle declares. In fact, they twist and adulterate the Scriptures. As a result, according to Jerome, “It is no longer the Gospel of Christ, but a man’s, or what is worse, the devil’s.”
Let all this holy Church of God, I say, arise, and with the blessed apostles intercede with almighty God to purge the errors of His sheep, to banish all heresies from the lands of the faithful, and be pleased to maintain the peace and unity of His holy Church.
For we can scarcely express, from distress and grief of mind, what has reached our ears for some time by the report of reliable men and general rumor; alas, we have even seen with our eyes and read the many diverse errors. Some of these have already been condemned by councils and the constitutions of our predecessors, and expressly contain even the heresy of the Greeks and Bohemians. Other errors are either heretical, false, scandalous, or offensive to pious ears, as seductive of simple minds, originating with false exponents of the faith who in their proud curiosity yearn for the world’s glory, and contrary to the Apostle’s teaching, wish to be wiser than they should be. Their talkativeness, unsupported by the authority of the Scriptures, as Jerome says, would not win credence unless they appeared to support their perverse doctrine even with divine testimonies however badly interpreted. From their sight fear of God has now passed.
These errors have, at the suggestion of the human race, been revived and recently propagated among the more frivolous and the illustrious German nation. We grieve the more that this happened there because we and our predecessors have always held this nation in the bosom of our affection. For after the empire had been transferred by the Roman Church from the Greeks to these same Germans, our predecessors and we always took the Church’s advocates and defenders from among them. Indeed it is certain that these Germans, truly germane to the Catholic faith, have always been the bitterest opponents of heresies, as witnessed by those commendable constitutions of the German emperors in behalf of the Church’s independence, freedom, and the expulsion and extermination of all heretics from Germany. Those constitutions formerly issued, and then confirmed by our predecessors, were issued under the greatest penalties even of loss of lands and dominions against anyone sheltering or not expelling them. If they were observed today both we and they would obviously be free of this disturbance. Witness to this is the condemnation and punishment in the Council of Constance of the infidelity of the Hussites and Wyclifites as well as Jerome of Prague. Witness to this is the blood of Germans shed so often in wars against the Bohemians. A final witness is the refutation, rejection, and condemnation no less learned than true and holy of the above errors, or many of them, by the universities of Cologne and Louvain, most devoted and religious cultivators of the Lord’s field. We could allege many other facts too, which we have decided to omit, lest we appear to be composing a history.
In virtue of our pastoral office committed to us by the divine favor we can under no circumstances tolerate or overlook any longer the pernicious poison of the above errors without disgrace to the Christian religion and injury to orthodox faith. Some of these errors we have decided to include in the present document; their substance is as follows:
  1. It is a heretical opinion, but a common one, that the sacraments of the New Law give pardoning grace to those who do not set up an obstacle.
  2. To deny that in a child after baptism sin remains is to treat with contempt both Paul and Christ.
  3. The inflammable sources of sin, even if there be no actual sin, delay a soul departing from the body from entrance into heaven.
  4. To one on the point of death imperfect charity necessarily brings with it great fear, which in itself alone is enough to produce the punishment of purgatory, and impedes entrance into the kingdom.
  5. That there are three parts to penance: contrition, confession, and satisfaction, has no foundation in Sacred Scripture nor in the ancient sacred Christian doctors.
  6. Contrition, which is acquired through discussion, collection, and detestation of sins, by which one reflects upon his years in the bitterness of his soul, by pondering over the gravity of sins, their number, their baseness, the loss of eternal beatitude, and the acquisition of eternal damnation, this contrition makes him a hypocrite, indeed more a sinner.
  7. It is a most truthful proverb and the doctrine concerning the contritions given thus far is the more remarkable: “Not to do so in the future is the highest penance; the best penance, a new life.”
  8. By no means may you presume to confess venial sins, nor even all mortal sins, because it is impossible that you know all mortal sins. Hence in the primitive Church only manifest mortal sins were confessed.
  9. As long as we wish to confess all sins without exception, we are doing nothing else than to wish to leave nothing to God’s mercy for pardon.
  10. Sins are not forgiven to anyone, unless when the priest forgives them he believes they are forgiven; on the contrary the sin would remain unless he believed it was forgiven; for indeed the remission of sin and the granting of grace does not suffice, but it is necessary also to believe that there has been forgiveness.
  11. By no means can you have reassurance of being absolved because of your contrition, but because of the word of Christ: “Whatsoever you shall loose, etc.” Hence, I say, trust confidently, if you have obtained the absolution of the priest, and firmly believe yourself to have been absolved, and you will truly be absolved, whatever there may be of contrition.
  12. If through an impossibility he who confessed was not contrite, or the priest did not absolve seriously, but in a jocose manner, if nevertheless he believes that he has been absolved, he is most truly absolved.
  13. In the sacrament of penance and the remission of sin the pope or the bishop does no more than the lowest priest; indeed, where there is no priest, any Christian, even if a woman or child, may equally do as much.
  14. No one ought to answer a priest that he is contrite, nor should the priest inquire.
  15. Great is the error of those who approach the sacrament of the Eucharist relying on this, that they have confessed, that they are not conscious of any mortal sin, that they have sent their prayers on ahead and made preparations; all these eat and drink judgment to themselves. But if they believe and trust that they will attain grace, then this faith alone makes them pure and worthy.
  16. It seems to have been decided that the Church in common Council established that the laity should communicate under both species; the Bohemians who communicate under both species are not heretics, but schismatics.
  17. The treasures of the Church, from which the pope grants indulgences, are not the merits of Christ and of the saints.
  18. Indulgences are pious frauds of the faithful, and remissions of good works; and they are among the number of those things which are allowed, and not of the number of those which are advantageous.
  19. Indulgences are of no avail to those who truly gain them, for the remission of the penalty due to actual sin in the sight of divine justice.
  20. They are seduced who believe that indulgences are salutary and useful for the fruit of the spirit.
  21. Indulgences are necessary only for public crimes, and are properly conceded only to the harsh and impatient.
  22. For six kinds of men indulgences are neither necessary nor useful; namely, for the dead and those about to die, the infirm, those legitimately hindered, and those who have not committed crimes, and those who have committed crimes, but not public ones, and those who devote themselves to better things.
  23. Excommunications are only external penalties and they do not deprive man of the common spiritual prayers of the Church.
  24. Christians must be taught to cherish excommunications rather than to fear them.
  25. The Roman Pontiff, the successor of Peter, is not the vicar of Christ over all the churches of the entire world, instituted by Christ Himself in blessed Peter.
  26. The word of Christ to Peter: “Whatsoever you shall loose on earth,” etc., is extended merely to those things bound by Peter himself.
  27. It is certain that it is not in the power of the Church or the pope to decide upon the articles of faith, and much less concerning the laws for morals or for good works.
  28. If the pope with a great part of the Church thought so and so, he would not err; still it is not a sin or heresy to think the contrary, especially in a matter not necessary for salvation, until one alternative is condemned and another approved by a general Council.
  29. A way has been made for us for weakening the authority of councils, and for freely contradicting their actions, and judging their decrees, and boldly confessing whatever seems true, whether it has been approved or disapproved by any council whatsoever.
  30. Some articles of John Hus, condemned in the Council of Constance, are most Christian, wholly true and evangelical; these the universal Church could not condemn.
  31. In every good work the just man sins.
  32. A good work done very well is a venial sin.
  33. That heretics be burned is against the will of the Spirit.
  34. To go to war against the Turks is to resist God who punishes our iniquities through them.
  35. No one is certain that he is not always sinning mortally, because of the most hidden vice of pride.
  36. Free will after sin is a matter of title only; and as long as one does what is in him, one sins mortally.
  37. Purgatory cannot be proved from Sacred Scripture which is in the canon.
  38. The souls in purgatory are not sure of their salvation, at least not all; nor is it proved by any arguments or by the Scriptures that they are beyond the state of meriting or of increasing in charity.
  39. The souls in purgatory sin without intermission, as long as they seek rest and abhor punishment.
  40. The souls freed from purgatory by the suffrages of the living are less happy than if they had made satisfactions by themselves.
  41. Ecclesiastical prelates and secular princes would not act badly if they destroyed all of the money bags of beggary.
No one of sound mind is ignorant how destructive, pernicious, scandalous, and seductive to pious and simple minds these various errors are, how opposed they are to all charity and reverence for the holy Roman Church who is the mother of all the faithful and teacher of the faith; how destructive they are of the vigor of ecclesiastical discipline, namely obedience. This virtue is the font and origin of all virtues and without it anyone is readily convicted of being unfaithful.
Therefore we, in this above enumeration, important as it is, wish to proceed with great care as is proper, and to cut off the advance of this plague and cancerous disease so it will not spread any further in the Lord’s field as harmful thornbushes. We have therefore held a careful inquiry, scrutiny, discussion, strict examination, and mature deliberation with each of the brothers, the eminent cardinals of the holy Roman Church, as well as the priors and ministers general of the religious orders, besides many other professors and masters skilled in sacred theology and in civil and canon law. We have found that these errors or theses are not Catholic, as mentioned above, and are not to be taught, as such; but rather are against the doctrine and tradition of the Catholic Church, and against the true interpretation of the sacred Scriptures received from the Church. Now Augustine maintained that her authority had to be accepted so completely that he stated he would not have believed the Gospel unless the authority of the Catholic Church had vouched for it. For, according to these errors, or any one or several of them, it clearly follows that the Church which is guided by the Holy Spirit is in error and has always erred. This is against what Christ at his ascension promised to his disciples (as is read in the holy Gospel of Matthew): “I will be with you to the consummation of the world”; it is against the determinations of the holy Fathers, or the express ordinances and canons of the councils and the supreme pontiffs. Failure to comply with these canons, according to the testimony of Cyprian, will be the fuel and cause of all heresy and schism.
With the advice and consent of these our venerable brothers, with mature deliberation on each and every one of the above theses, and by the authority of almighty God, the blessed Apostles Peter and Paul, and our own authority, we condemn, reprobate, and reject completely each of these theses or errors as either heretical, scandalous, false, offensive to pious ears or seductive of simple minds, and against Catholic truth. By listing them, we decree and declare that all the faithful of both sexes must regard them as condemned, reprobated, and rejected . . . We restrain all in the virtue of holy obedience and under the penalty of an automatic major excommunication….
Moreover, because the preceding errors and many others are contained in the books or writings of Martin Luther, we likewise condemn, reprobate, and reject completely the books and all the writings and sermons of the said Martin, whether in Latin or any other language, containing the said errors or any one of them; and we wish them to be regarded as utterly condemned, reprobated, and rejected. We forbid each and every one of the faithful of either sex, in virtue of holy obedience and under the above penalties to be incurred automatically, to read, assert, preach, praise, print, publish, or defend them. They will incur these penalties if they presume to uphold them in any way, personally or through another or others, directly or indirectly, tacitly or explicitly, publicly or occultly, either in their own homes or in other public or private places. Indeed immediately after the publication of this letter these works, wherever they may be, shall be sought out carefully by the ordinaries and others [ecclesiastics and regulars], and under each and every one of the above penalties shall be burned publicly and solemnly in the presence of the clerics and people.
As far as Martin himself is concerned, O good God, what have we overlooked or not done? What fatherly charity have we omitted that we might call him back from such errors? For after we had cited him, wishing to deal more kindly with him, we urged him through various conferences with our legate and through our personal letters to abandon these errors. We have even offered him safe conduct and the money necessary for the journey urging him to come without fear or any misgivings, which perfect charity should cast out, and to talk not secretly but openly and face to face after the example of our Savior and the Apostle Paul. If he had done this, we are certain he would have changed in heart, and he would have recognized his errors. He would not have found all these errors in the Roman Curia which he attacks so viciously, ascribing to it more than he should because of the empty rumors of wicked men. We would have shown him clearer than the light of day that the Roman pontiffs, our predecessors, whom he injuriously attacks beyond all decency, never erred in their canons or constitutions which he tries to assail. For, according to the prophet, neither is healing oil nor the doctor lacking in Galaad.
But he always refused to listen and, despising the previous citation and each and every one of the above overtures, disdained to come. To the present day he has been contumacious. With a hardened spirit he has continued under censure over a year. What is worse, adding evil to evil, and on learning of the citation, he broke forth in a rash appeal to a future council. This to be sure was contrary to the constitution of Martin VI and Julius II our predecessors that all appealing in this way are to be punished with the penalties of heretics. In vain does he implore the help of a council, since he openly admits that he does not believe in a council.
Therefore we can, without any further citation or delay, proceed against him to his condemnation and damnation as one whose faith is notoriously suspect and in fact a true heretic with the full severity of each and all of the above penalties and censures. Yet, with the advice of our brothers, imitating the mercy of almighty God who does not wish the death of a sinner but rather that he be converted and live, and forgetting all the injuries inflicted on us and the Apostolic See, we have decided to use all the compassion we are capable of. It is our hope, so far as in us lies, that he will experience a change of heart by taking the road of mildness we have proposed, return, and turn away from his errors. We will receive him kindly as the prodigal son returning to the embrace of the Church.
Therefore let Martin himself and all those adhering to him, and those who shelter and support him, through the merciful heart of our God and the sprinkling of the blood of our Lord Jesus Christ by which and through whom the redemption of the human race and the upbuilding of holy mother Church was accomplished, know that from our heart we exhort and beseech that he cease to disturb the peace, unity, and truth of the Church for which the Savior prayed so earnestly to the Father. Let him abstain from his pernicious errors that he may come back to us. If they really will obey, and certify to us by legal documents that they have obeyed, they will find in us the affection of a father’s love, the opening of the font of the effects of paternal charity, and opening of the font of mercy and clemency.
We enjoin, however, on Martin that in the meantime he cease from all preaching or the office of preacher.
Martin Luther’s theology is condemned by the Catholic Church. Luther himself will be given 45 days (or until July 26th, 1519) to repent on his errors. If, by that time, or during his grace period he continues to preach his heresy, he will be excommunicated.
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2023.06.02 06:14 tdixon5 Another hospital stay and at the end of my rope

I just dropped my husband off at the psychiatric hospital for the 2nd time in our relationship. We have been married for 4 years this month and together for almost 9 years. The first time he was admitted was almost exactly 3 years ago. I found out he was abusing amphetamines behind my back for years (I was naive) and having online affairs. He was trying to get clean on his own and became suicidal. He wanted help. I was fully prepared to leave him if I had to due to the betrayal, but I was focused on getting him help first and foremost. I was willing to stay if he got help and put in the work. And he did. He came out of the hospital with a diagnosis of major depression with psychotic features. We honestly don't understand this psychotic features diagnosis, I have always felt that he was bipolar as he has obvious manic episodes. But I am no doctor. After discharge, he started weekly therapy for himself and therapy for our marriage, he started medication (anti-depressant and mood stabilizer) and went to his psychiatrist every 3 months. He has been sober to this day, not even alcohol. There was some dabbling with weed but he realized it was better to just abstain due to his tendencies. Things became good. Better than ever. No more financial issues because our money wasn't disappearing to drugs. I got pregnant and had a baby, we bought a house. Things are bad again. He is sober, but he wants to die. The past few months, he just talks about how much he doesn't want to be here anymore. He's still on his meds and going to therapy. We stopped marriage counseling a long time ago, we shouldn't have clearly. I found out yesterday he is having online affairs again. He says his addiction issues have just channeled into that. It's always something, fortnite, football, skateboarding, his phone. Whatever he is into at the moment is an obsession/addiction. He said he can't think about anything except for harming himself so we took him to the hospital. It seemed like it was due to guilt for cheating? I honestly am not sure, I don't understand it. I love and care about this person and I'm afraid divorce is giving him a death sentence. But I'm tired of living like this, worried about the next episode or if he is going to wake up tomorrow or be here 5 years from now. I can't plan financially or for a second child if I wanted one with the way he is. He is a great dad to our almost 2 year old, but I'm scared a divorce would change that. I have never been scared of him, but should I be? We don't fight or argue ever really, he's too depressed to care about anything enough to fight me about it. We have been more like roommates for months which probably lines up with when the affairs started. We bought our house last year so we have a mortgage - selling would be a loss and cost us probably. I just spent our savings on his hospital stay. Should I talk to a divorce lawyer while he's in the hospital to discuss my options (how do people even afford this)? Do I wait to see if things improve after the hospital and start marriage counseling again? Maybe an adjustment of his meds will help. What is going to damage my son, who loves his dada, the least? It was already irresponsible of me to bring him into this world since I knew the mental health issues my husband has. I feel like nothing. My husband's mental health issues have just sucked the life out of him and myself and I just want him better. But is it easier to stay or easier to leave?
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2023.06.02 06:14 Kegmg I think I am bipolar

I’ve been being treated for anxiety and depression now for about 15 years on and off around 15 different SSRI/SNRI medications with little success. My main symptoms are anhedonia, irritability, I change my mind a lot, low energy, low motivation, impulsive, social isolation, intrusive thoughts, change my appearance often (shaving myself bald, then growing my hair for months same with my beard, hide a lot my feelings, discontent, numb. I’m a very big fitness person but I have periods where I cannot gym at all I just don’t care about it anymore even though deep down I love exercise. I also notice I miss work a lot to sleep sometimes for 12+ hours a day. SSRI and SNRI meds have sometimes helped these symptoms but they never truly go away and I still feel like I am not “normal”. I brought this up to my doctor and she thinks I may be bipolar (I had a long period of mania on LEXAPRO where I did things out of my character) I just started LAMICTAL around 3 days and I am hoping for relief, has anyone else been on multiple meds before and noticed a big change when switching or adding LAMICTAL?
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2023.06.02 06:12 ASAP_ROCKY Prescription problems question

  1. my doctor ordered bloodwork to be done before I could get wegovy, I got diagnosed with prediabetes
  2. they sent the prescription to CVS and basically they have to get a pre-authorization
  3. my doctor told me to fill out a form (google sheets) so they can get it pre-auth'ed for me
  4. I called my health care provider(anthem) pre auth phone line and they told me that my plan exludes wegovy from being prescribed but I there is a few options my doctor can do to get it prescribed
How screwed am I? I'm losing hope that I won't be able to get my hands on wegovy due to the price point being so high. Any insight would be helpful, Thanks for all your help!
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2023.06.02 06:11 ASAP_ROCKY Just got prescribed wegovy using plushcare, ran into problems

  1. my doctor ordered bloodwork to be done before I could get wegovy, I got diagnosed with prediabetes
  2. they sent the prescription to CVS and basically they have to get a pre-authorization
  3. my doctor told me to fill out a form (google sheets) so they can get it pre-auth'ed for me
  4. I called my health care provider(anthem) pre auth phone line and they told me that my plan exludes wegovy from being prescribed but I there is a few options my doctor can do to get it prescribed
How screwed am I? I'm losing hope that I won't be able to get my hands on wegovy due to the price point being so high. Any insight would be helpful, Thanks for all your help!
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2023.06.02 06:08 Previous-Tennis4448 An adoption request for a loving pair of cats.

An adoption request for a loving pair of cats.
Hello, I'm looking for a loving, well-settled family or bachelor who would be willing to adopt a pair of cats I have. I found them when they were just kittens, one male and one female. They are siblings and are both in good health. The male cat has already been neutered and the female will be neutered this weekend.
Unfortunately, due to my job and my studies, I am not able to give them the time and attention they deserve. As such, I am seeking a family or individual who can provide them with the love and care they need. I've included their pictures with this.
If you're interested in adopting these cats, please let me know. Thank you!
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2023.06.02 06:08 Significant_Bison699 Drained

Hello, I'm 30+F, sobrang drained na ko for the past few months/years because:
1) both may parents sakit 2) I dont feel so old but ang tagal ko na nagwowork pero wala akong ipon (6 digits pero wala ring tira dahil sa no. 1, may bahay ako na binabayaran pa sa bank, insurance other than that wala na, di ako materialistic at sobrang tipid ko) 3) engaged for so many years pero ayaw magpakasal ni bf dahil a. Rason nia before is nag iipon kuno (pero since introvert kame both civil lang gusto ko i dont understand bakit kelangan magipon ng malaki) b. Ayusin nia muna lahat ng problema nia sa buhay (which is so funny kase di naman nauubusan ng problema sa buhay)backstory: mejo rough childhood nia meaning from mayaman sumadsad sila sa hirap as in sadsad and nawitness nia un kaya parang todo kayod sya para di maranasan un ule. I think na trauma sya because of that pero ayaw nia magpaconsult kahit na affected na decisions nia at health nia. Pag stressed sya sumasakit ulo nia. c. Pag nareach na daw ung certain age, and nung malapit na ung age na sinabi nia iniba nia ule ung condition. d. Pag nareach ko na ung certain sahod pero dahil sa no. 1 ubos pa rin lagi ung sahod ko e. Pag natapos na ung bahay na pinapagawa nia (we had an agreement na ako bibili ng appliances and sa kanya ung bahay, that doesnt seem fair pero sa kanya naman nakapangalan ung bahay so i think wala dapat issue) pero pag tinatanonf ko kung nagstart naba construction, wala pa daw, Dec 2023 ang turnover pero he doesnt seem to care ( parang tinfin ko ayaw nia ifollow up so parang ayaw nia oo talaga mkasama) f. Pag nakaipon nako for myself dahil naawa daw sya saken, again pera-related na naman ---Nag iintay ako ng bagong excuse nia pero feeling ko ayaw nia lang ako makasama talaga
I'm just here to vent. Di ako suicidal pero I just want to die of natural causes para bayaran ng full ng insurance ung bahay ko. Nakakapagod. I just want to stop living. I just want to stop being responsible sa mga wrong decisions ng parents ko sa health nila.
May massuggest ba kayong way para mag iba outlook ko sa buhay? Please wag puro about God or faith. I believe in God pero tingin ko rin di lahat inaasa sa kanya. I feel like ung iba sobrang tamad na magtake actions sa buhay nila so iba inasa lang sa dasal, wala nang ibang actions.
Kung umabot kayo dito sa dulo thank you and sorry ang haba ng post.
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2023.06.02 06:05 Alarmed_Conflict3195 AITA For not wanting to be around my boyfriends family?

I'm going to apologize now just because this is very long.
I 21F and my Boyfriend 21M have been together for 2 months shy of 4 years, we have lived together since March 2020. He moved in with me and my family to get away from his family who caused him severe childhood trauma, and severe depression. I helped him get a job, his license, important documents that are a necessity and tried to help him the best I possibly could. After he left his parents house they did not talk to him for about 6 months, he still hardly hears from his brother and sister and I can see it hurts him. I tried in the beginning to be friendly with his family but had a tough time feeling welcomed, and comfortable around them after my boyfriend told me all of the things he went through. I accepted his wishes to try to make amends with them and stuck it out anyways. I could tell they weren't very fond of me just from little things they would all be talking and laughing then when I entered the room they would all go silent. Their main reason for not liking me was they blamed me for their son moving out and not going to see them as much. I visited a few times with my boyfriend but a lot of the times he went alone due to my severe social anxiety. He definitely stays home much more than going over to his parents house which they usually have something going on every weekend.
Last year me and my boyfriend quit our job (we both worked at the same place, for 3 years) for getting treated unfairly and he was struggling to find a job, I suggested he work for his dad since his dad owns a junk yard. He only worked there for 2 months. His dad was getting way to involved in his personal life and was shorting him money which we couldn't afford at the time, and on top of that he was stuck in the middle of his parents in a court battle. His mom and dad broke up a few months after he left and she got her own place, his parents are very you need to pick a side type, and very very manipulative. Me and my boyfriend got into a really big argument and I told him to leave, so he went to his moms house for a week which was not the best idea. She tried to manipulate him into breaking up with me for good and lied to his entire family about the whole fight we had, his whole family hated me even more than they did before. We talked everything out, after going back and fourth because his mom was manipulating him into staying (Telling him she will give him money every week, and buy him a car if he stays with her) and he moved back after only 7 days, I stayed very clear of his family after that because of my anxiety. I was picking my boyfriend up from work a few weeks later and his dad comes up to my car and starts screaming at me for a good 25 minutes, about our argument and even called his own son slow, and stupid and claimed that I was using him and taking advantage of him, my anxiety was through the roof so I couldn't even stand up for myself, my boyfriend came out and listened to him screaming at me and he kind of just stood there (He has severe trauma with his father, so I did not blame him for not getting involved.) I had trouble driving home because it was such a traumatic experience, I knew the yelling was going to come so my mom would usually come with me for the ride to get him but the one time she doesn't it happened.
The next day my boyfriend quits his job with his dad and tells him off, that night his parents blow up his phone asking if he was ok and alive? His parents show up to my house and he goes outside they demand that I come out and talk to them. I was filled with anxiety and was already very overwhelmed with what happened the day before, and I told my boyfriend I was not comfortable to go out and speak with them. He just tells them I'm in the shower which they insist they will wait for me to be done and they stay another 2 hours outside the front of my house until my moms boyfriend tells them to leave. About a week goes by and my boyfriend tells off him mom and dad and tells them if they can't accept me and treat me with respect that he wants no contact with them. They both agree until a few days later my boyfriend gets a text from his mom saying she will not give me a chance and just saying mean and hurtful things about me. She claimed that I manipulated him into thinking he had a traumatic childhood and that I'm severely controlling towards him. She also accused me of holding him against his will while living with me. She went on to say that being with me hurts him as a person and me and my family can go fuck ourselves and that she would be opening a lawsuit against us all, saying she will go after us because he has mental health issues and can't think for himself, (He was diagnosed with ADD, and Severe Depression). She stated that she "would do the impossible" to keep us apart. After all of this happened my boyfriend went to the police department and filed a police report for harassment as he told her to leave him alone and she was threatening to show up to my house and cause issues with me family. He got the police report with the possibility of a restraining order, the police went to her house and told her to leave him alone. He wound up blocking her number and going no contact for almost a year. He did not get the restraining order.
During that time his brother would fight with him about how he was treating his mother, and his sister who never calls would beg him to talk to him mom. After almost a whole year of being harassed by his brother and sister about the situation he goes to see her. They talk though a lot of things and wound up reconnecting, I told my boyfriend that I do not feel comfortable visiting his family with him and he wants me to give them another chance, I said no and told him to be careful and ease in and to watch out for his moms manipulative ways. He seemed to be pretty upset about me not wanting to give them a chance, but his whole family already has their opinions of me and I'm not going to waste my time and energy trying to get them to like me. I just feel very stuck, I've never told him he couldn't see his family but I know this is going to drive a wedge into our relationship as most of his family tells him to break up with me because of the stories they have heard but have never sat down with me and had a conversation. What should I do?
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2023.06.02 06:03 Careless-Trick-5117 Help involving my friend drinking

I have a friend who’s 15. She gets drunk every few months and smokes about once a month. I don’t care how much of a pussy I sound, but I’m seriously scared for her health. How poorly could this effect someone’s health in the long run?? She says she wants to stop when she reaches adulthood but I’m still so worried.
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2023.06.02 06:00 LucyAriaRose AITAH for breaking up my engagement because what my fiancé said about my mom?

I am not the Original Poster. That is u/ThrowRAmissjay. She posted in AITAH, (yes, that sub, not the other one,) and her own page.
Trigger Warnings: sex shaming, religious bigotry,
Mood Spoiler: a bleak look at society
Original Post: May 16, 2023
I (26F) am not from USA so I might have some grammatical errors. So, my dad left my mom and I when I was only 5 years old. I also have a brother (21M). He left the country with his mistress and never tried to contact. We were really poor. My mom had to do some immoral stuff to get food on the table. She was a stripper and also sometimes pleased men to get money for us. She put me and my brother through school. I understood why my mom did what she did because we had no money and she wanted us to have a life better than ours. And I am not ashamed because of it. I also started working part time when I was 14. I was a good student so I got a scholarship to a good university. My mom eventually stopped stripping when my brother got a part time job too. She now only works as a waitress.
I met my fiancé, Javi (27M) in college. This was my first serious relationship. We both loved each other. I never told Javi about my mom's past because my mom made me promise to never say that to anyone. I kept that but it felt so wrong to keep this huge information away from my fiance. Javi knew about us. He only knew that my family was extremely poor. He doesn't care about that. He is a very sweet guy who always takes care of me. He even covered some of the cost of my brother's education as well even though I told him not to. My mom also likes him, that's why she told me not to tell Javi anything about her past or what she did for a living. So, a week ago, my mom and I went to Javi's house to meet his parents. I didn't realize his uncle and aunt would also be there. Upon seeing his uncle my mom's face went white as if she saw a ghost. His uncle also kept staring my mom as if he knows her. My mom felt uncomfortable and said that she wants to go home. Javi was confused by it. But nonetheless we left earlier than we anticipated. The next day my fiance came to our place and shouted at me that I lied to him.
He said that I am a gold digger just like my mother, and my mother is the reason why his uncle's first marriage broke. I asked him to explain what the hell is he talking about. He said that his uncle knew my mom because he was a regular customer of her and often hired her for her services. His wife caught them red handed and immediately filed for divorce. My mom was crying and said that she didn't know he was married, she never asks men about their marital status. I told him that he has no right speak to my mom like that and his uncle was fully to blame because he was a married man who was hiring escorts for himself. My mom has no obligation towards his marriage. Javi still blamed me and mom and said that he felt deceived. He said to my face that he doesn't want to date a "whore's daughter" because I will probably invite men just like my mom. My mom had to beg him to not break the engagement. I am tired. If I do end up marrying him, my mom would always have to suffer because of it. I don't want that, so I gave him back his engagement ring and told him to never show his face. My mom is angry because she thinks this is my only chance to get married because no other guy would marry into a family where the mom works as a sex worker.
But I think I did the right thing because I am not ashamed of my mom, I didn't even wanted to hide it in the first place. I wanted to tell him the truth but my mom refused it. So, AITA?
Edit: I need to clear things out a bit. Javi knows everything about my life. He knows my dad fled the country and we had to live in poverty because of it. He knows my mom got pregnant way too young. I did give him hints that my mom had to do shady things to get by (he probably thought my mom stole things). But I didn't disclose that she was a sex worker. I wanted to tell him but my mom said not to because she doesn't want this to escalate. Also I never asked Javi to pay for my brother's education. He did it from the goodwill of his heart. I did promise to pay him back. I am not after his money. I do love him a lot. Even though we are broken up now, I still miss him. We have been together for 6 years. It is not easy to throw away those 6 years just like that.
Relevant Comments:
More about culture:
"I know that. And I understand why he is upset. Sex work is heavily criticized in my country to the point even doctors refuses to treat them. I understand his family's stigma especially his uncle was caught with my mom. So, they have a reason to hate her. I hoped that he would be a little bit understanding about our situation. If my mom didn't start working as a stripper, she would have never been able to send us school or college. I did love him a lot."
Can you and your mom go to therapy?
"It is hard to find a good therapist around our area. Yes, I have money now but my mom doesn't want to disclose her past because in the past she was denied care because of her profession."
More about the uncle:
"Everyone knows what the uncle did. I do not have to broadcast it. His uncle was a regular client of my mom. She knew him because he would often hire her and also because his wife slapped and beat her when she found her in his uncle's house."
Some people shame her mom for sleeping with married men as an escort:
"First off all, it is none of my mom's business to tell those men to stop hiring escorts. Do you know that more than half of the men who hire these sex workers are actually married? Are you really telling me that my mom is an asshole for not turning down 50% of those men? Do you know what that means? It means losing 50% of her income. Do you know what it's like to lose 50% of your income? If she refused those services then she would have never been able to keep a roof.
Secondly, it's their marriage. My mom is just a service working who provides her services to men who hire her. It is none of her job or business to snoop or tell those men not to cheat. It's that man's ugly character that cheats on his wife with an escort. By your logic a waitress shouldn't serve a married man food because only his wife gets to serve him food and no one else."
"Listen my mom was a sex worker. It was her job to offer services to anyone who is willing to pay. Even if she refused to do that, do you think that man who wanted an escort would stop? No, someone else would take that offer. It is not her responsibility to save a marriage that is already broken. She is a sex worker, not a marriage counselor. What she does is business. The man himself doesn't care about his marriage then why should my mom who is not romantically involved with any of them? You offered your judgements it is fine. But I must say your judgements are rather poor because you are blaming a poor woman who only did what she did to put food on our plate. Would you rather she loose more than 50% of her income than care about some random man's marriage that the man himself doesn't care? It is not my mom's job to provide loyalty. It is 100% on the man who hired an escort in the first place."
This sub doesn't give an overall judgement, but most of the comments were NTA
Update Post: May 26, 2023 (10 days later)
Hi everyone. I wanted to say thank you so much for your support. I never thought I would get so much support from strangers than people from my own community. I was however expecting a lot of hate towards my mom considering her profession but it is less than what I expected. I don't know if this qualifies as a proper update but there have been few changes. After I broke the engagement, I have been getting calls from my friends and Javi's family that I am making a huge mistake. My close friends know that my mom used to be a sex worker but mutual friends of mine and Javi does not know about it. So, they are also questioning me if I ever did that. Javi did apologize. He said he got carried away by his emotions and he loves me. Ngl, I love him too. I wanted to get past all of this. I know people have told me that I should not get married to this guy. But I was weak for a moment. Until he told me that he is willing to let things go and start anew if my mom does not attend any wedding functions. I was shocked.
Weddings are a big deal in our culture. There are many functions and parties surrounding the wedding. How can he ask that I do not involve my mom. He told me that because of my mom's past it would be difficult for his family members to be around her. He convinced his mom with difficulty about this engagement. Also since his uncle is going to be there, it will only remind him of bad things. At that moment I realized that I was never a consideration. It was always him and making his family happy. My family is beneath them because we are not from a respectable background and come from homes of sex workers. I stood firm and told him no, it is not going to happen. I will not give into their demands because the way I see it my mom did not do anything wrong. It is funny how quickly people will judge a woman based on her work, that she had to do to feed her kids but no one will come forward to help her in time of her need. Javi threatened that I am making a huge mistake by letting him go. I just left. I do not have the energy to deal with it. I think this news is spreading like wildfire now. I may have to move out of the city because if this news reaches to my workplace I know damn well people will ostracize me. So, I might look for job in a different area.
Lastly, I messaged him saying I am sorry for not telling him earlier about my mom but I loved him a lot. I am sad that he chose this topic to ruin a 6 year old relationship. I will be going to the bank and pay back the money he paid for my brother's education. I am still crying and jilted to say the least. Also, I saw that my post was shared in different religious groups bashing my mom. Saying that I deserved it. Well, let me tell you religious fanatics that most men who claim to be religious are not at all. My mom had many clients who claim to be religious including pastors and preachers. So please before blaming my mom look inside your house and your family. You might find chameleons hiding within your family too.
Edit: People who are asking why I am paying him back, it is because I don't want him to use it as an excuse to call me a gold digger who used him for his money. I don't want to be in his debt.
Relevant Comments:
Can you move elsewhere where people don't care?
"Thanks. I am encouraging my brother to apply for his masters abroad. Even if I missed the window he would be out of here. He won't have to face the scrutiny. And no sex work is legal in here but very much frowned upon especially in our town."
You made the right choice and someone else will be out there
"Thanks, but I wonder if anyone would ever be accepting of my life. Because if they do they might have to face insults and ridicule from the society. Who wants that? I just know even if it hurts, I cannot be with someone who was so disrespectful towards my family."
I truly wish OOP and her family the best. OOP seems like an amazing woman, and she was raised by an amazing woman.
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