So I'm currently sleeping in a tent. I'm a short walk to a 24 hour gas station. I ended up eating something that really messed with my stomach. Well I didn't make it to the gas station for the bathroom. And I'm still kinda going through it. But it got me wondering if there might be a way to make or buy some kind of portable toilet near my tent. I looked at a few things on Amazon but I wanted to know if you guys had any ideas that you've done before that might be a bit cheaper.

I don’t know when this started, but definitely from 16 until 22/23. My (31F) brother (34m) would open my bedroom door as quietly as he could, and then just stare at me. Sometimes I’d wake up and ask him wtf he wanted, and he’d say he needed to ask me something? Other times I’d catch him and I’d go absolutely insane at him. I remember literally screaming at him not to do it again, and asking why he did it and his response was always “I don’t know”.
It’s important to note that I was SA by someone when I was 16 so trauma was already there. I became hyper vigilant and sometimes stared at the door waiting for the smallest movement. I still have trouble sleeping because I think my brain has mixed that with the SA so I’m now afraid to sleep in case someone does something.
I’d listen to see if I could hear him walk near my room. I told my mum who told him to stop, but that never actually did anything. This was an extremely frequent occurrence and nothing I said (shouted) or did (shut the door in his face, ran after him, hit him etc) helped. I felt extremely powerless.
Like I said, this went on until I was 22/23, because that’s when I moved out. I’ve not lived with him since. How do I navigate that I have obvious trauma from this, but still want a relationship with him? I don’t want to spend any alone time with him at all, but I’m okay with family gatherings etc.
Is that okay? I just feel like the obvious/natural response would be to cut contact. I’m currently dating someone and we’re quite honest with each other. How do I tell him about this? Yeah my brother’s a creep but it’s all good…
no one knows how much this has affected me because I’ve not told anyone. I downplayed it once before and my friend brushed it off as “huh, weird” and as I said, my mum told him off but never did what I actually wanted which was to actually get through to him and/or stop him.

Hi everyone!
I bought a few different products from the ordinary to try to reach my goal skin. I have oily/combo acne prone skin with a lot of redness near on the cheek part right next to my nose under my eyes (not on the actual majority cheeks/cheekbone area). I don’t really get a lot of active breakouts anymore but I have bad congestion around my nose and clogged pores. Here is my routine:
AM: Cleanser: PanOxyl Hyaluronic acid Niacinamide Moisturizer- Aveeno Sunscreen
PM: Cleanser- PanOxyl Hyaluronic acid Salicylic acid Niacinamide Azelaic acid (for redness) Moisturizer
So basically the ordinary products I am using are: Hyaluronic acid Niacinamide Salicylic acid Azelaic acid
Please let me know if the routines above are okay! Or maybe if I should switch things around or take something out of a step. I was thinking about taking niacinamide out of PM but I don’t know and would love to hear from others.
Thank you so much!

Hello! Did a virus or food poising just turn me from IBS-C to IBS-D?
Traveled from US to Ireland and began having “mild” diarrhea after 3 days, by my 6th and final day i got bad lower back pain and left side aches on my upper stomach. Began violently puking (even water) and basically had liquid coming out my other end for 9 hours straight. No fever or bloody stool. I had to get on a flight 2 hours after this all slowed so i finally took the Imodium.
It’s now been 2 weeks and i’m still having diarrhea and get bloating, gas, and cramps in my stomach especially near my right hip in the mornings and nights (my appendix was removed in Nov so not that)
So what the heck is going on?? I think maybe a salad triggered it, I tend to throw up after eating salad or sushi even if high quality…but it may be in my head.
If I go to a doc what tests can I have done? I don’t want to take meds unless 100% needed for stomach issue. I’m also panicked that now I have IBS-D. I appreciate you all greatly!!

This was almost 20 years ago. Not far from a hotel that is well known to be haunted. It was even featured in Ghost Hunters. The hotel, not the Bat Sanctuary. So, this building is an old, dilapidated farmhouse. Boarded up and very plain looking. Two story, with two bedrooms upstairs. But aside from a few kids trying to get in over the years, it had been unoccupied aside from the bats.
So, a few friends and I decided to go for a little B&E ghost hunt one night. My friend and I had been ghost hunting for some time together and these kids knew that. So, we basically had a few tag along tourists with us that night. Amazing how many people wanna join once they realize you do it every weekend.
We go and move a board that is already loose. Not actually breaking it but just pulling it loose from the nails. We weren't trying to get any charges if caught so we tried to be as respectful as you can when forcing your way into an abandoned property that had been repurposed.
It was fairly uneventful. Some furniture was still in the building, but it was relatively clean aside from droppings everywhere. The bats mostly stayed in the attic, so we weren't disturbing them. That's also where they got in and out so were had made the decision prior to entry that we wouldn't mess the attic.
So, nothing much happens, and two people make their way out to go back to the road. That left me and one other at the top of the stairs and one girl that had never joined us for any hunt down at the floor level, just around the corner from the staircase in the living room.
My buddy and I were both facing the same direction, down the stairs, ready to make our way down. We started to hear something from outside which we later found out was the sheriff rolling our friends that had gone back to the cars. We also found out that the officers refused flat out to go get us off the property or even walk up to the house. Deciding instead to just wait for us to come out. I said something along the line of, "You ready?" My buddy said, "Yep." We were almost shoulder to shoulder at the top of the steps and something took a deep breath in. Loudly. It was dark, but we both looked at each other with wide eyes and just stared at each other in the dark, silently. For a few seconds the air felt as think as paste and we were both holding our breath. From downstairs the girl said, "What did you say?"
"We're going outside," I responded.
I could hear confusion in her voice, "Are you upstairs?"
We were already moving pretty quickly down the stairs and didn't really respond. All three of us were out the hole pretty quickly one after another. Got to the cars without really talking and were greeted by our other friends and a few cops. The cops admitted to thinking the building was haunted and asked us not to go back in there ever because they wouldn't want to have to go in to look for us.
The next day the girl hit up my buddy and he texted me saying she wanted to meet for coffee and talk to us.
Pretty standard so I thought nothing of it. We met, she was wearing a really nice sun dress that day. So she tells us that at the same time we heard someone take a deep breath, she heard one of us, (she thought) say, "What's that?" As if someone was just around the corner. But that wasn't why she wanted to meet us. Not exactly. She had gone home that night and had a nightmare.
She was asleep in bed and woke up to her bedroom door opening. She couldn't move. At her door, in the dark house, was a shadow that made no sense. Then she said it melted down to the floor and she lost sight of it. Still unable to even move her head, she wanted to scream for her parents but couldn't physically do it. Then a hand, with three long fingers reached up past her bed, and then grabbed her right leg hard and pulled her out of bed. She hit the floor hard and "woke up."
Sipping my coffee, I chuckled at her. I jokingly said, "I don't think we've caused any nightmares taking people out before." Looking at my buddy I said, "Looks like someone needs a little more time out before she gets used to it."
She slammed her hand on the table, alarming the few others around the coffee shop sitting near us. I was like, "Easy, I'm only fucking with you." She was pissed and I realized she was really shook. I went from smart ass to immediately feeling bad. "Look it was a nightmare, we had some weird experiences, and you took it to sleep with you. Then she stood up and pulled up the bottom of her dress revealing the bruise on her leg that looked very similar to three long fingers. Tears in her eyes she said, "Why me?"
Thinking back, I remember how that moment broke my heart. More so that I didn't have an answer and we didn't do a very good job trying to comfort and reassure her.
She never came back out with us again.

I wanna know if anyone else has something like this. I don’t know how to explain what exactly my issue is but I will try my best. Firstly, I have a trampoline, big enough for flips and tricks, a very sturdy trampoline. I have had one for as long as I can remember. Whenever i’m sad, i need a distraction, i’m bored, or just have a lot of energy, it’s my go to place. I play music from my phone and I disappear into another reality. I pretend I’m different people from different shows, youtube channels, or movies. I used to pretend I was another number like 11 in stranger things or that I was another character on Aphmau’s mystreet in 2018. I know people like to pretend they are in edits or in movies but I go way out of my way to pretend I’m in this reality. It’s cringey I know but it’s truly so peaceful for me. As time has gone by, my trampoline is breaking and the springs are coming out, and you can’t fix it. My parents are not gonna get another one because they are so expensive, which I don’t fault them for. I have issues with my mental health and this trampoline is literally, i’m not kidding, my therapist. I had to go without a trampoline for 4 weeks 6 months ago and I can truly say my anxiety was so bad. I had way more panic attacks then I thought and I felt so on edge the whole time. I can’t imagine going without it. It’s gotten to the point that when I stand on one corner, my feet touch the ground. I tried walking out there 10 minutes ago, at 10:30, and I when I almost stepped on the first step of the latter, I saw a huge Black Widow hanging from a web on the latter. I almost put my foot against it. I have a terrible VERY irrational fear of spiders, and this nearly gave me a heart attack. I’ve seen spiders on the trampoline before but I try to ignore them so I can still be on it. But after this, I don’t feel safe on it anymore. I mean… going on it with all the springs gone and touching the ground on it isn’t exactly safe but after this, I know I can’t be on it anymore. I guess my question is, what does this mean for me? I know it’s a coping mechanism but is this normal? I’m looking for advice on it because I want to identify what’s going on with my obsession with a trampoline. It seems so silly but I’ve loved “role playing” on my trampoline since I was 7. Any advice phycologists?

Curious to hear others’ experience lately. For reference, 1.9 KD and avg ~4.5 kills per game. Wouldn’t call that sweaty but I would say I’m competent.
I have been getting STEAMROLLED lately. Played most of this season around ~2.5 - 3 KD and now think it’s around 1.6.
I don’t play ranked often and am like a lvl 10 or something. Those lobbies feel pretty sweaty to me and from what I understand those are pretty low level lobbies?
I have been consistently facing very sweaty players since ranked dropped. When I spectate them you can tell movement near flawless, gun skills very sharp, etc. Not to mention I look top right of my screen and am seeing 20 bomb in pretty early circles.
The cheating is a different thing, it’s hard to tell with the killcams but have been encountering what I think are walls at times, aim it hard to tell bc of how bad the killcams are but idk…deaths have felt strange more often than usual, by a lot.
What have you guys been experiencing?
Curious as to why my ranked lobbies are how they are given how rarely I play it.
If I am seeing what I am seeing right now, what is it like for a more average player? I feel like someone with a 1 KD or below would be getting destroyed given I’m a ~2 and have been getting slapped around lately.

I said to the teacher leading the kids, "That asshole almost kid your kids!" and she sighed and sai, "Yep I saw that."
Then I spent 40 minutes on hold with the nonemergency 911 line. Only to be told there's nothing a cop can do unless they see the transgression with their own two eyes. He said even if I had video footage of the asshole driving into a busy crosswalk full of kids, it is not admissible evidence. He can't even write the asshole a ticket.
Why have we allowed cities to become hostile to anyone outside of a car? I can tell you at least 50 people witnessed the asshole today, and no one did a damn thing. Why are drivers allowed to be murderous and negligent to pedestrians?
I don't understand why Right turn on red is legal in densely populated cities? There isn't a moment when a crosswalk is empty on a walk sign in my major city, so why are we letting assholes drive right into busy crosswalks?
There is no recourse for someone who was nearly flattened by a pickup truck. Those innocent kids today could have been killed. I feel so depressed and let down by the selfishness of drivers.
I seriously considered going up to his window and banging on it telling him he almost killed those kids. But what would I get? A gun in my face, nothing at all, or flattened by another car that doesn't see me.

Had my hamster for a week basically now and he’s still somewhat shy, he doesn’t mind me hand feeding or my hand being near him but he still isn’t sure how he feels about being pet so I’m not sure if he’d like being picked up yet (even with the cup method) to be put into the big play pen I got

Hello there, I think this question really depends on personal choice but I really want to get some feedback first. So I have already accepted and enrolled in Pharmacology & Toxicology major during the first decision iteration and has enrolled a second major in Human Biology. However, I just got an invite for the Cell & Molecular Biology Specialist last day, if I remember the time period correctly this offer should be a second decision iteration. Since Cell Bio Specialist isn't a collaborative life sci program, it doesn't conflict with Pharm Tox Major and both courses can be taken together.
However, I'm afraid that taking a Specialist and a Major together might be way too much for me and doesn't achieve anything credit and degree-wise. I wanted to pursue a career as a medical examiner and I feel that Toxicology would be a good starting point for undergrad, afterwards I could apply for med school after graduate studies. But, a specialist program in Cell Bio seems too good to pass on. In addition, I had a hard time with the last third of the content (mostly reaction mechanisms) of first-year OChem, in fact, I nearly flopped on the final exam, and Toxicology seems to lean heavily on chemistry. On the other hand, I achieved 4.0 points in BIO 120/130 and I seemly had a relatively easy time studying molecular biology content for BIO 130 compared to other students (no, I"m really not flexing). I'm not sure if it is even possible to drop the Pharm Tox Major now that I have enrolled in it. And if I can, should I pick Cell Bio Specialist instead? I need to understand what bother of these programs demand from their students. I welcome any answers.

Hey yall
So I played as a kid in the classic era, and got back into Yugioh when DevPro was still a thing. When I got back into it I played Masked Heroes, Burning Abyss, Constellars, Quasar Dragon, and things like that. Obviously back then it was very easy to hop around and try new decks, but between Master Duel economics and the current state of the game, its harder to find a deck that would appeal to me.
I started with an updated Blue Eyes deck that I nearly got Plat with, and I'm just about finishing an updated Masked Hero/Destiny Hero/Vision Hero deck that ive nearly gotten diamond with.
I'm torn however. I want to win obviously but I find so many of the meta decks completely insufferable. I hate playing against them simply because they're not fun and don't allow back and forth interactions, and I don't want to be that guy.
I've been thinking of building a Burning Abyss deck next, but idk, is there something else that would be better that suits my playstyle better? I don't need a top 3 deck I just want to have fun in ranked without feeling like surrendering when my opponent plays a top 1 cringelord deck.

My two middle siblings in particular have heavily trauma bonded with our mom. Today my sister made a comment about how jumpy I am and how I go to worst case scenario every time someone raises their voice.
Umm... did we even grow up in the same house? Don't you remember all the times she nearly killed us with her erratic driving, that time we had to call the cops, the two times she tried to abduct our brothers, the various "manifestos" she would leave lying around the house with her delusional ramblings and so much more?
Logically I get how trauma bonding works of course, and I know since I took on the parental role I bore the brunt of the abuse while they were still the golden children, but the degree to which they deny anything ever happened is baffling to me.

Im trying to predict what's gonna happen with everyone at Castle Black in TWOW. I have ideas, but one problem keeps coming up; we dont know how the brothers of the Night's Watch will respond to Jons murder.
I believe Jons murder will cause a lot of division in Castle Black; between the NW vs the Wildlings, the NW vs Mel & Selyse... but it will also cause division WITHIN the NW. Some seem to support Jon, others appear not to. For the majority of the NW, theres no indication one way or another. But I wanna know who's on which side, so heres what I've come up with so far:
JONS ALLYS
- Ghost
- Dolorous Edd
- Hareth (Horse)
- Rory
- Satin
- Iron Emmet
- Leathers
- Jax
- Arron
- Emrick
- Pyp
- Grenn
- Toad
ANTI-JON FACTION
- Bowen Marsh
- Wick Whittlestick
- Othell Yarwyck
- Septon Cellador
- Alf of Runnymud
- Left Hand Lew
- Ser Alliser Thorne
- Mully
- Fulk, the Flea
This list only includes NW brothers who are still alive by the end of ADWD. It's hard to say who supports Jon and who doesn't with certainty. So let me give a brief explanation for each of these guys and why I think they will be either pro- or anti-Jon:
PRO-JON FACTION
- Ghost - Obviously he's on Jon's side. He arguably IS Jon. And yes.. Ghost is a brother of the NW
- Samwell Tarly - No explanation needed. But Sam is far away, in Oldtown, so he's irrelevant to Castle Black in the TWOW opening
- Edd Tollett - No explanation needed. But Edd has been sent to Long Barrow along with Iron Emmett, so he isn't at Castle Black either.
- Hareth (Horse) - Horse is guarding Jon after the Shieldhall speech, right as the assassination is about to take place. If Jon trusts him enough to guard his life, this probably indicates Horse will stay loyal to Jon:
Horse and Rory fell in beside Jon as he left the Shieldhall. I should talk with Melisandre after I see the queen, he thought. If she could see a raven in a storm, she can find Ramsay Snow for me. Then he heard the shouting … and a roar so loud it seemed to shake the Wall. "That come from Hardin's Tower, m'lord," Horse reported. He might have said more, but the scream cut him off. (Jon XIII, ADWD)
- Rory - The same goes for Rory, he was with Horse guarding Jon as the assassination took place. I wouldn't be surprised if we learn in TWOW that Horse or Rory were killed in the assassination attempt. But if they survive they'll probably be Team Jon
Val, was Jon's first thought. But that was no woman's scream. That is a man in mortal agony. He broke into a run. Horse and Rory raced after him. "Is it wights?" asked Rory. Jon wondered. Could his corpses have escaped their chains? (Jon XIII, ADWD)
Jon saw the flash of naked steel a few yards away. His own bowmen nocked arrows to their strings. He turned in his saddle. "Rory. Quiet them." Rory lifted his great horn to his lips and blew. (Jon V, ADWD)
- Satin - Seems to be close with Jon. Is picked by Jon to go on missions. Jon defends Satins positions as his personal steward and squire after Edd. Satin is the only one of Jon's friends who doesn't get sent away to the Shadow Tower. Satin also adopts the old gods, indicating his closeness with Jon. Also it's clear the anti-Jon faction hates Satin. Satin probably has the most evidence of anyone to show he'll support Jon. Satin's whereabouts at the time of the assassination are not known
His friends laughed—Grenn, Toad, Satin, the whole lot of them. (Jon III, ADWD)
Septon Cellador spoke up. "This boy Satin. It's said you mean to make him your steward and squire, in Tollett's place. My lord, the boy's a whore … a … dare I say … a painted catamite from the brothels of Oldtown." And you are a drunk. "What he was in Oldtown is none of our concern. He's quick to learn and very clever. The other recruits started out despising him, but he won them over and made friends of them all. He's fearless in a fight and can even read and write after a fashion. He should be capable of fetching me my meals and saddling my horse, don't you think?" (Jon VIII, ADWD)
Whatever Satin may have done in Oldtown, he is our brother now, and he will be my squire. (Jon VIII, ADWD)
- Iron Emmett - He is picked to be the master-at-arms for Castle Black. He spars with Jon. He is selected for the mission to the weirwood in ADWD. There isnt solid proof he would support Jon, but he seems to be a prime candidate as an ally. He was sent to Long Barrow with Edd Tollett, so he isnt at Castle Black
- Leathers - Leathers almost certainly supports Jon. Leathers is a Wildling who became a brother of the NW. Jon makes him the master-at-arms after Emmett. The anti-Jon faction does not approve of Leathers appointment
"Is it true that you mean to replace Emmett with this savage Leathers as our master-at-arms? That is an office most oft reserved for knights, or rangers at the least." "Leathers is savage," Jon agreed mildly. "I can attest to that. I've tried him in the practice yard. He's as dangerous with a stone axe as most knights are with castle-forged steel. I grant you, he is not as patient as I'd like, and some of the boys are terrified of him … but that's not all for the bad. One day they'll find themselves in a real fight, and a certain familiarity with terror will serve them well." (Jon VIII, ADWD)
"How many men are enough?" he asked Leathers. "A hundred? Two hundred? Five hundred? A thousand?" (Jon XIII, ADWD)
- Jax - The same as Leathers. Jax is a Wildling who joins the NW. He isn't mentioned as often as Leathers, but given that Jon's murderers were in large part motivated by Jon's relationship with the Wildlings, I imagine any Wildling NW-brother will have to be pro-Jon
- Arron & Emrick - Two brothers from Fair Isle who are recruited by Jon. They both swear their oaths before the Weirwoods, even though they were born following the Faith of the Seven. There is little information about them, but what little we have seems to suggest they may be pro-Jon
- Pyp, Grenn & Toad - These guys are Jon's friends who he sends away to the Shadow Tower. They are certainly pro-Jon, but they aren't nearby enough to matter
ANTI-JON FACTION
- Bowen Marsh - Stabbed Jon
- Wick Whittlestick - Tried to slash Jon's throat
- Othell Yarwyck - The First Builder of the NW. He is one of the leaders who is increasingly antagonistic towards Jon leading up to the assassination. He was seen at the Shieldhall meeting, standing near Bowen Marsh. Almost persuaded to support Janos Slynt for Lord Commander in ASOS. He doesn't attend the Thenn-Karstark wedding
As for Borroq, Othell Yarwyck claimed the woods north of Stonedoor were full of wild boars. Who was to say the skinchanger would not make his own pig army? (Jon XIII, ADWD)
But others had chosen to absent themselves to show their disapproval. Othell Yarwyck and Bowen Marsh were amongst the missing (Jon X, ADWD)
"I summoned you to make plans for the relief of Hardhome," Jon Snow began. "Thousands of the free folk are gathered there, trapped and starving, and we have had reports of dead things in the wood." To his left he saw Marsh and Yarwyck. (Jon XIII, ADWD)
- Septon Cellador - A part of the council that becomes increasingly antagonistic towards Jon's command. There's not a lot of evidence to support him being anti-Jon, except he hates the Wildlings and assoiactes with the anti-Jon faction
"These are godless savages," said Septon Cellador. "Even in the south the treachery of wildlings is renowned." (Jon XI, ADWD)
- Alf, of Runnymudd - Alf appears to be heartbroken when Garth is killed by the Wildlings. Some have theorized this indicates Alf and Garth may have had a gay relationship, but there is no other evidence for this. Alf is seen hanging with Bowen Marsh during the Shieldhall meeting. He likely blames Jon for the death of Garth. He is one NW brother I feel certain hates Jon
"Who is it?" asked Owen the Oaf. "Not Dywen, is it?" "Nor Garth," said the queen's man she knew as Alf of Runnymudd, one of the first to exchange his seven false gods for the truth of R'hllor. "Garth's too clever for them wildlings." "How many?" Mully asked. "Three," Jon told them. "Black Jack, Hairy Hal, and Garth." Alf of Runnymudd let out a howl loud enough to wake sleepers in the Shadow Tower. "Put him to bed and get some mulled wine into him," Jon told Three-Finger Hobb. (Melisandre I, ADWD)
Othell was surrounded by his builders, whilst Bowen had Wick Whittlestick, Left Hand Lew, and Alf of Runnymudd beside him (Jon XIII, ADWD)
- Lefthand Lew - There is no evidence for him being anti-Jon... except he is standing with Bowen Marsh and the anti-Jon faction during the Shieldhall speech. I have no idea what his beef with Jon is, but I feel certain he is with Marsh
Othell was surrounded by his builders, whilst Bowen had Wick Whittlestick, Left Hand Lew, and Alf of Runnymudd beside him (Jon XIII, ADWD)
- Mully & Fulk, the Flea - Right before the Shieldhall meeting, Jon is told by Mully and Flea that Ghost is acting aggressively. This is obviously a warning that Jon is surrounded by enemies who will try to kill him. But it could additionally indicate that Mully and Fulk the Flea are specifically Jon's enemies. This is the only potential hint I could find that might suggest Mully & Fulk are on either side
"That'd be sweet, m'lord," said Fulk the Flea, "but your wolf's in no mood for company today." Mully agreed. "He tried to take a bite o' me, he did." "Ghost?" Jon was shocked.
- Spare Boot, Kegs, Halder, & Albett - These men are part of part of Othells builders. The builders are seen with Othell and Bowen Marsh in the Shieldhall
- Ser Alliser Thorne - Alliser hates Jon, but he isn't at Castle Black right now. Although I predict Ser Alliser will return and maybe even be elected new Lord Commander in the beginning of TWOW, some theorize he may even seek justice against Jon's conspirators
CONCLUSION
Please tell me what you think of my list! I'd like to hear arguments about why should anyone be added or removed from either list?

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I'm in an odd sort of craving right now where I want something along the lines of tomb raider maybe with a dash of the DaVinci code thrown in, but I will settle for Indiana Jones or uncharted type stories. Please let me know if you know anything along those lines because I'm having a hard time finding books like it
Something with treasure hunting, archeology , thrilling near death scenes, and hopefully even some survival type elements. Along with some secret societies and possibly even magic . Something where the main character really puts in the work would be nice. Like the main character is really in the thick of things

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After being here for roughly 9 months, I have my list of favorite restaraunts. Please discuss and feel free to offer suggestions, and mutually salivate over thinking about food with me And get triggered defending your favorite joint with Honor. SD is great. Bonus points for near OB/PB/LJ/Mission and near. Kearny.
This list is hugely incomplete noticeably with no Mexican, Asian, Indian.

1. Wayfarer Bread 😫
   
2. Trilogy Sanctuary 🕉️
   
3. Raglan Public House 🗿 and Sister restaraunts
   
4. Dirty Birds
   
5. Peace Pies
   
6. In N Out
   
7. Urban Plates
   
8. Miss Bs Coconut Club
   
9. Main Chick
   
10. Pizza Port
    

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Hi reddit. Sorry if this post is rough around the edges. I'm much more used to reading reddit posts than posting them myself. There will be a TLDR at the end, but I'm seeking advice on how to confront my bf about some things he has said recently. I'll try to keep things as short and sweet as I can but it'll probably be a bit long! For some backstory my bf, let's call him Jack and I met in highschool. We come from pretty different backgrounds. I was a very poor kid growing up, broken family dynamic, homeless a few times, and I really struggled fitting in most of my life. Jack has his own battles to but since day 1, he's always had a couple of friends, fairly good family life, and had a lot of help early on establishing himself as an adult. All of this is important because many of our problems we have faced in our relationship stem from our differences understanding one another. Onto the current problem. Jack has always been the type of man to bottle up his feelings. It's taken several years but he's now mostly comfortable telling me about his feelings, his emotions, and other things stressing him out. I've always tried to be a supportive partner and remind him his feelings are valid and it's ok to talk when he's ready. The one thing I've noticed that becomes harder is when the problem and feelings are involving me. Let's say I said or did something to upset Jack. He may tell me, and I'll apologize and try to fix the problem but if I had a reason for my actions I will tell him, and he seems to always shut down saying he's a bad bf or he's being to sensitive and shouldn't be so upset. When he shuts down he won't talk to me about anything at all for days on end, and I find myself having to bottle my feelings because I can't say anything back to defend myself. It sometimes leads to arguments that I think could be handled like adults but lead to a complete mental shut down on Jack's side. Examples of things he said and my responses? Jack is a spontaneous man who likes to go out and do things, and take vacations out of state. He said I never go out and he feels like he can't enjoy himself. I like being at home more. I make myself go out a lot and I do enjoy it but he does it a lot. I said he can go out anytime he wants but he needs to tell me ahead of time about vacations so I can make sure it's financially possible for me. I tell him that he needs to give me notice on spontaneous plans because I need time to get my things done and get ready. I don't like suddenly going out when I haven't showered or I'm in pajamas. Jack shut down saying he was being a bad bf and apologized for pressuring me, but this has happened a few times and I always end up comforting him and debating it less and less each time. Jack also recently said he cringes hearing me talk to his family. I don't have a good relationship with the near entirety of my family. I do not talk to any extended family or siblings and I have a rocky relationship with my parents. Jack's family often hangout once a week for a small dinner and it's normal for many of them to hangout at a farm one of them owns and hangout for the day on a weekend. Because of work I often miss these hangouts but lately I've been trying to come around more. I've always had a hard time talking to his family. While no one is mean to me, I feel like some of them don't think I'm good enough for Jack because I'm not as settled as an adult as him. Few of them try to talk to me and even when I try to join or start convos not many talk to me so I've learned to stay back and sometimes outright avoid the whole thing. Recently at one of the small dinners however I was talking to his grandmother about dogs we liked. When we left to go home Jack said he cringes hearing me talk to them because I'm to loud and hyper (I suffer from adhd if that means anything) I felt very embarassed and uncomfortable and I decided not to say anything about it because I knew he would get upset if I brought up what he said hurt my feelings or if I asked when else I've made him feel that way. He must have noticed because he said I looked a little upset and I was being quiet. I had to force myself to smile and talk even though I felt like crying becuase I didn't want to start an argument and make him feel like he can't say things to me. All of this has made me feel a lot less happy lately. I want to support Jack's feelings but I don't think it's fair I'm now hiding mine because he always shuts down when I try to confront him and talk. I feel like I can't say anything negative about him nor can I say how I feel in return when he says something negative about me. I don't want to go out with his family or mutual friends because I'm afraid I'll embarass us both, but if I don't go out at all it upsets Jack. Does anyone have any advice how I can handle talking to him about these things he has said to me? How can I tell Jack it's ok to say how he feels about me but keep him from shitting down when I say anything back?
TLDR: Bf says I don't go out enough and socialize enough and he cringes hearing me talk to his family. I don't know how to confront him that it hurts my feelings because he emotionally shuts down.

[Captain Indrix Jaen]
When the higher ups put me in charge of this investigation, it was pretty much written on their faces what they expected out of me. Completely annihilating a squad of ships and having it broadcasted over galactic network was a deep slash in their gargantuan pride and I was a qualified military official with nothing left to live for except revenge. They wanted a manhunt that they could claim plausible deniability on. While I hated being used like some convenient and disposable tool, they were indeed correct in their evaluation of me and that I would not refuse this opportunity.
I couldn’t help but think back to what happened in the prison. I had the scourge of my life delivered to me on a silver platter, tied up and seemingly helpless. I mistook his expression of amusement as one of aggression, failing to realize that I was the one in danger in that room, not him. I should have noticed something was up when there were no scans of him in the database, instead I got complacent after seeing how lax his treatment was, thinking that he wasn’t constantly guarded just because he wasn’t dangerous when alone. In fact, all the blame went to me considering I wanted to selfishly savor his suffering instead of just ejecting him into deep space and cutting off any possible suspicion towards me.
I just couldn’t bring myself to let him off that easily. Not after he took away everything I ever knew. The family I’d managed to keep together even after being forced to enlist to pay off my parents’ debts. The crew that I had the pleasure of working with for twenty years, being close enough with each member that they would invite me to be best man if they ever settled down. I’ve spent countless nights ripping out my tongue and wrenching off all my teeth, trying to rid myself of those horrific memories, but it all just came back by the next morning.
An interesting piece of information had been hidden just below the surface of the information highway. The Meldren leader, Governor Destra Sind had a private conversation with Dominique prior to his escape. It was noted that Dominique was aggressive towards her when the conversation was broken up, but that wasn’t enough to clear my suspicion.
I just left warp at the edge of the Meldren system and was greeted with the expected regular Meldren signatures followed by the unexpected warning of a massive human ship, large enough to flatten a small city if it ever landed.
When my original ship was destroyed, all of the data that was stored in the computer systems had been wiped, meaning that none of the battle data could be recovered for study. Whatever it was that they used, whether it be an actual sentient weapon or a much more likely data wiping virus, it had looked over a black box that held the logs for each main ship system. The R&D team pieced together that the ship’s network had been breached and that the integrity shields had been shut down as the attack was made. They figured that the ships would have at least held together long enough for a counter attack if that hadn’t been the case, so now policy was to close all communication lines except for one that was constantly scrubbed before packets made it to the network, resulting in massive latency in any communications as a cost for a chance of fighting back.
This measure was made with the idea of fighting back against the one-man ship that Dominique was piloting, not a capital ship that was hundreds of times that size. I couldn’t help but stare at the visualization of the ship perched on a moon above the Meldren homeworld. It was by no means the largest ship I’d ever seen, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it boasted the most lethality in the galaxy.
Now wasn’t the time for sluggish caution considering there was a high chance that I was already in dematerialization range. Even if I managed to survive falling from orbit on a shower of debris, the nearest celestial body was a 10-kelvin, atmosphere-less hellscape that would finish me off. I opened an FTL communication line with the Governor in hopes that the lack of aggression was not a mistake.
“This is lead investigator and Captain Indrix Jaen, mind telling me the situation?”
“Meldren Governor Destra Sind, the human ship is friendly, do not engage them under any circumstance!”
“I didn’t take you for a joker, Governor. Since when were you friendly with those hairless scum?!”
Then, a new voice rang out from the call, “Hey now, even I have feelings.”
“...Who the hell is this?! Why are you on this call?”
“On the contrary, you are the one who barged in on this line. Captain Nathaniel Brand of the Mayflower 233, and also the real-estate manager for the air-space you currently occupy. Mind explaining?”
“I am investigating the escape of a galactic prisoner and Governor Sind here caught my suspicion. I bring with me full Grahtonian military authority. As far as I’m concerned, you aren’t involved in that, unless there’s something interesting you want to reveal?”
At this point Governor Sind cut into our horn-measuring contest, “If you are here for that reason, then I can’t help you. I have nothing to do with Dominique’s actions, nor do I condone them.”
“Then why the secrecy in your meeting with him? It’s clear to anyone that you played a part, the only reason you aren’t currently undergoing a full, intrusive Grahtonian audit is because people doubt that someone like you would be on his payroll!”
“Audit all you want, his escape was a complete surprise to me! That secret meeting was me updating him about the status of his people, if he took that as prerogative to waltz out of your hands then that’s on you!”
This would have been the point where I’d start singing my profanities if not for a warp signal being observed not too far behind me. I nearly fell out of my seat at the readings that were sent to me. The ship that just warped into visual distance happened to be none other than the small transport ship that was stolen from the prison during Dominique’s escape.
My instincts told me that I’d been caught in a trap, that I was flanked by two forces and every passing moment may as well have been my last. Then my logic kicked in, asking why they would even bother flanking me, and then how a transport vessel would pose a threat. These doubts were given fuel when I heard two exclamations from the call, one of utter surprise and one of exhausted annoyance.
There wasn’t a guarantee that my target was actually on that ship, I needed more information before I could act. This could be my greatest chance at my goal, but it would all be for nothing if I make a mistake here and cut off any future chances.
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