Season 4 love is blind casting

Lucifer - a Netflix Series

2011.02.13 22:29 Moldavite Lucifer - a Netflix Series

Subreddit for the Netflix drama *Lucifer* based on the DC/Vertigo comics
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2009.08.17 02:46 greyandwhitecat /r/bigbrother - Reddit's source for information on your favorite houseguests

Reddit's source for discussion of your favorite houseguests
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2011.08.27 08:42 HBO's Euphoria

HBO's Euphoria: A group of high school students try to discover their own identities while dealing with drugs, trauma, love, and social media.
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2023.06.09 06:54 MostlyUnidentified I Loved Season 4

I just wanted to make a positive post since it seems a lot of people are fuming. It’s your right to be mad; but I don’t really get it.
I think the last season was perfect. It really tackled a lot of heavy life topics and handled the theme of growth and change really well. So this is a long 100% positive review. Nothing is ever truly perfect but I think this season was pretty damn close.
Even if you didn’t like it; it made sense that Trent and Eleanor broke up at first because Trent felt that he was holding Eleanor back - we know Trent loves her and if you think you’re negatively impacting someone you love, letting go is a loving thing to do. Plus it gave El the space to figure herself out, so it was more meaningful when she decided to get back with him. Rather than her being with him just because.
I love the fact that they explored love for older women in Pati’s story line. You don’t stop loving, or stop having needs, or stop needing company just because you’re old. Also Nalani’s continued - moving on as a widow storyline; plus the powerful scene she had about letting her daughter go.
I know Kamala’s story line could have had more; but I think it was solid. I suppose some people wouldn’t understand unless you grow up in certain cultures. But sometimes you just become so invested in the family unit and thinking about your duty is to them, that you forget that you have your own life to pursue. Plus, because being an active participant in someone else’s life; distracts you from your own.
I love love loved Paxton’s story. Many people feel lost after graduation; and I like how it was explored and how he was able to see his situation clearer through Eric and with Lindsey. I know Daxton fans aren’t happy, but honestly, I like the fact that they had Paxton accept his role change as an adult and authority figure. IMHO it would have been weird for him and Devi to get together. I think they’re better as friends. I like the closure here.
Fab had a good storyline too. You can’t give up your opportunities for someone else. I also like how she didn’t ignore the issues in her club once it was brought to her attention.
Lastly, I was rooting for Benvi - so I obviously enjoyed the ending. But I love how they allowed Devi to show her growth and maturity first through the season before allowing them to get together. I also like how they allowed Ben and Devi to re-establish themselves as friends before jumping into romance. The pay-off was well worth it.
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2023.06.09 06:54 SyberBunn Barbatos is so one sided

so iv'e been playing since a week before the start of the current season, and MY GOD. barbatos is kinda bullshit, being able to kill you in about a second with 2 key presses, one night i was bored, not really trying to win matches when i thought to myself, "hmm, tonight i will play barbatos". *clueless* then proceeded to sweep the next 4 matches. what. the. fuck. how do the devs think this is balanced?!
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2023.06.09 06:53 Lemon_barr This show is amazing at casting f

Can I just say I love how they used an actual non-binary actor for Jade. It’s so amazing to see representation done well.
The actor did an amazing job too. I wish this wasn’t the last season, because I would love to see where this goes and they’re my favorite already. I’m sorry if this is against the rules I’m just so excited.
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2023.06.09 06:52 Leonardo512 Free Backtesting Service for Your Trading Strategies with Freqtrade. Example in comments

Free Backtesting Service for Your Trading Strategies with Freqtrade. Example in comments
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A few ago recently my interest in trading and programming was born so I’m trying a tool named freqtrade.
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2023.06.09 06:51 Inevitable_Sand_5479 Didn’t get industry job (venting)

I took a break from PA to finish up CPA (took three months off) while waiting to start at another firm.
In the meantime I saw an industry role at a f500 that I would love and thought I’d be a good fit for. Plus no more busy seasons and fully remote.
I scored an interview and didn’t get it. I’ve never been rejected from a job that I interviewed for. But now the thought of dealing with busy season is pissing me off when I thought I was going to be free.
Someone please tell me that when I get my certification that some industry job with no billable hours is going to snatch me up. I don’t want to be in PA for more than another year or two.
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2023.06.09 06:51 Eatencheetos New Spider-Man movie has a plot twist taken straight from Lost…

Towards the third act when Miles comes back home, it appears that Miles and Gwen are in the same universe but then it’s revealed that they are actually in different universes.
This is like the episode of Lost in season 4 when it appears that Jin and Sun are both in the flash forward, only to reveal that all of Jin’s scene’s were actually flashbacks.
Did anybody make a connection between the two?
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2023.06.09 06:48 rahmanson Continue with stock market investments or explore rental property? Concerned about challenges, stock market volatility, and managing expenses in a HCOL city

I'm a 54-year-old who was laid off last year and is still searching for my next assignment, albeit halfheartedly as I would prefer to retire. My wife and I have a combined net worth of $4 million, with $2 million in taxable investments and $2 million in tax-deferred accounts. Currently, we follow the Bogle way of investing, with 70% in VTI, 20% in international stocks VXUS, and 10% in bonds BND. Around $100K in HYSA and CD Ladder.
While I consider continuing our stock market investments, my wife believes exploring rental property is a better option for providing a steady income during retirement. However, I personally don't like the idea of rental property as it seems like another job with its own set of problems. Additionally, I worry about periods when the stock market might experience downturns, creating a potentially scary financial situation.
Adding to the equation, our child will start college this year, and we have already planned to fund their education using a 529 plan. Fortunately, we have no concerns regarding college funding. However, we do face the challenge of managing our expenses in a high cost-of-living city in California, where our expenses amount to around $110,000.
Given these considerations, I'd love to hear your insights and experiences. Should we stick with our current investment strategy, or would diversifying into rental property be a wise choice despite the potential challenges? How can we effectively manage our retirement plans and handle our expenses in a high cost-of-living city while also ensuring adequate funding for our child's college education through the 529 plan? Any advice or guidance on the pros and cons of each approach, considering the added responsibilities of managing expenses in a HCOL city and the potential volatility of the stock market, would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
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2023.06.09 06:48 Miss_Kitty__ Will he go fully blind?

Will he go fully blind?
Hello! This is My puppy Kylo, he has cloudy eyes, he is almost 3 months old. And has had obvious vision impairments, he has trouble going down stairs and won’t go down unless you are with him. When we were teaching him to sit when we threw the treat he would walk past it looking for it if it rolled to far away. And now when we have him do tricks and don’t throw down a treat he will put his head close to the ground obviously listening for a treat drop. We have contacted a vet but we are having trouble getting him in, we are hoping he Won’t go fully blind but I’m sure he will. I’m not sure if he was born with them but I’m sure he was. Wondering if anyone knows exactly what the issue with his eyes are we are thinking it may be hereditary cataracts but we aren’t exactly sure. Not to mention we contacted the guy we got him from and he said “the dog was fine when he was with me” yet he said they were vet checked (((They weren’t, I know we should have asked for proof but didn’t think of it at the time for some reason, and the guy also threatened to take him back if he changed his name from Junior, we did change it, it’s now Kylo LOL))) then he proceeded to ask for my mothers Snap (((he kept hitting on my mom while we were asking him serious questions abt the mother of the dogs which he had lied about, There father is a American Staffy, there mother is a Labrador retriever mix, we are thinking wirehair terrier and other things, we finally got to see the mother from pictures from a friend, unfortunately the original owner of him had multiple dogs, most of them were missing fur including the mother and 3 other small dogs they had. We also found out that the father isn’t even his dogs and it’s his friends that he bred without him knowing))) , we later found out from one of his friends that he left the puppies unsupervised with larger dogs and ended one of them ended up getting killed, we blocked him realizing he truly never cared for the dogs and only cared for the money.. but I guess the point of this post is asking anyone who knows what the issue with his eyes may be. We love him very much and just want some outside insight to see if anyone may know whats going on. But in the end we are pretty sure he will go completely blind since it’s already so impaired at such a young age.. We will definitely be more careful and definitely get paperwork for any dogs in the future, but I wouldn’t trade Kylo for the world❤️
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2023.06.09 06:47 stygarfield r/Nanaimo will be going dark on June 12 for 48 hours to protest the API changes.

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users. If you, or someone you know has a visual impairment - these changes will also block the tools they use to access reddit, as the reddit website and official app are ill-designed and un-equipped to aid those with accessibility issues.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill many useful third party apps on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.

What can you do?

  1. Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
  2. Spread the word. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at /ModCoord - but please don't pester mods you don't know by simply spamming their modmail, or by breaking the rules of other subreddits.
  3. Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favourite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
  4. Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible. This includes not harassing moderators of subreddits who have chosen not to take part: no one likes a missionary, a used-car salesman, or a flame warrior.

How does it affect you?

In 2021, Reddit opened a Canadian office. This new office symbolised a recognition of the Canadian market being a model for what Reddit was seeking in other international market places. Reddit's own COO, Jen Wong has said, “Canada is already home to a deeply engaged Reddit audience that is growing steadily by the day and it is a top priority for us and our internationalisation strategy." source
Canadians are a largely sought after market, we have a disproportionate voice to lend to this important issue. Canadians on reddit punch way above their weight class, Nanaimo will join with countless subreddits in defense of these third party apps. These applications provide us as users, and as moderators, tools that make Reddit more usable, accessible, functionable, and easier to moderate.
Countless users have reached out on this important issue, and we are in agreement. Reddit's failure to listen to the community means we must speak in unison to protect these services. For those in disagreement, we will see you back on June 15.
We acknowledge that Reddit has been reaching out to moderators, and is recognizing the concern raised by the communities. We will keep users updated through this post as the situation changes.
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2023.06.09 06:47 BryggerHeise Numerological day analysis of 9-6–2023 22/4 Mystic/ Physical Realization, Daily practice

Numerological day analysis of 9-6–2023 22/4 Mystic/ Physical Realization, Daily practice
Inspired by wisdom, intelligence, communication and sensitiveness you want to physically Manifest Mysticism today.
9-6–2023 22/4 Mystic/ Physical Realization, Daily practice
Spirit: 9 Wisdom; Intelligence; Communication; Sensitiveness; Reason
Soul: 6 Power; Male Drive; Yang; Life force; Sexuality
Body: 23 Unconditional Love or ‘Cry for Love’?
The sum total of today is 22: Mystic leading to Physical Realization. You want to bring mysticism into reality through your your spirit’s wisdom and intelligence, your soul’s power and drive and your physical ability to express Unconditional Love.

Today's pentagram
Themes
There are no major themes driving your process. This means that your process this year is more about the interaction with the outside world, than the inside world. There is a high level of spiritual and mental awareness today
Levels of awareness
There is a high level of spiritual and mental awareness today.
Your spiritual awareness is obtained through Inner Happiness and Dissolution-Renewal.
Your mental awareness is obtained through “Human Animal” - Sphinx and Unpredictable Intelligence.
The goal of both levels is that you intuit your potential of the high priestess of Eros, that you physically manifest the divine connection and that you show feminine perseverance and feminine awakening.
Triangle with the 6th (“Ego" realm) principle:
The spiritual and mental triangle formed with the 6th principle gives you the energy of the higher dimension of “Diplomacy or Fate”. It is all about finding an effortless way of relating Power to Form, without the Power destroying the Form and thus creating Fate.
Individual numbers:
To better understand the meaning of the five numbers active today, I give you the full explanation of them.
Masculine side:
Mental level: Blue 2(5): 25 Inner Happiness
Inner Happiness arises when a person is fully at peace with him/herself. Situations in the outer world and/or the presence of certain people (“ without hehim I cannot live”) no longer affect him/her. His/her Inner Happiness will radiate and attract lucky circumstances.
52 : 5= Jupiter as a Symbol for Expansion multiplied by itself. It means that 25 consists only of 5!
5 behind 2: Life Fulfilment (Expansion) (5) inspires Intuition (2) or increases Doubt (2).
Sum 7: It results in Self-Awareness.
Emotional level: Blue/Red: 36 “Human animal”; Sphinx
3x12; 2x18; 62
In the Bible 36 is called the ‘Father Number of the Human Animal’. 36 is the Occult Root*of 666. This number is being unjustly demonized up until today. 36 demands to enjoy life with all one’s senses – enjoying the full life!
* The Occult Root is determined as follows: If one adds up all the consecutive numbers from 1 to 36, the result will be 666. 36 is then called the Occult Root of 666. In the same manner 4 is the Occult Root of 10 (the so-called Tetractys of Pythagoras).
Sphinx: Symbol for the union of the sublime human head with the reclining animal body. This signifies that on the instinct level we are connected to the animals. We have the instincts to feed ourselves, to procreate ourselves. Contrary to the animals however we have a mind and a soul and we are able to decide for ourselves how we will deal with these instincts.
3x12: Conscious Decision (3) for Perfection, Completion (12).
2x18: In the 18 lies the Temptation to be led by one’s animal instincts and then to end up in Separations (2).
62:: Male Sexuality to the 2nd power!
6 behind 3: Powerful (6) Decisions (3), that may be constructive or destructive.
Sum 9: Use the Intellect!
‘Ego’ realm: Blue/Red 69 Involution-Evolution
3x23/10th Prime
In the Pentagram the numbers 1 - 6 are the so-called involutive numbers (this means: Spirit enters Matter). Consequently the number 7-10 are the evolutive numbers (The spiritual quintessence has to emerge from Matter).
The 6 receives the Force from the 1 (Axis 1-6) and directs it on through the successive principles up till 9. There the Force lands in the upper circle of the 9.
The combination 69 is the only one that remains the same when you turn it by 180o. When you turn it 90o the zodiacal sign of Cancer appears – resembling the lemniscus of the (horizontal) 8.
69 requires transformation of the Power of the 6 into the Wisdom of the 9. That is exactly the impulse the 9 gives to the 6.
69 symbolizes the eternal movement of Life, like in the four seasons of the year.
3x23: this cycle may only be achieved through transformed Love (23). A Conscious Decision (3) is required.
Sum 6 over 15 (6+9): Power (6) and Wisdom (9) must be in a 50/50 balance (15) to achieve Power (6).
Feminine side:
Mental level: Blue/ Red 92 Unpredictable Intelligence
2x46; 4x23/10th Prime Rank + Prime: 21st + 71
Should you only focus on your intellect, you become a pure “Fact-Based Person”. You might only accept that which can be physically touched and that which the current state of science confirms. It creates a certain kind of “Cold Intellect”.
2 behind 9: Should you however link Intuition (2) to Mind/Intellect (9) a wonderful addition of two different ways of dealing with the ways of the world is created. Intelligence becomes unpredictable then.
Sum 11: Double Divine Idea; Master Number.
2x46: the correct Intuitive (2) way of handling the “Hard Reality” of Space (4) and Power (6).
4x23: The desire for Love (23) penetrates Matter (4).
21st + 71: The Intelligence should feed itself through spiritual Growth (21) and Visions (71).
Spiritual level: Red (10)3:103 Dissolution and Renewal
28th Prime
103 makes extremely restless: the 3 penetrates with Decisiveness into Matter, the 10 piles out to Transform and a find a new beginning. 103 gives a concentrated decisiveness, which always gives a short term energy boost – either by the 3 “inwards’ or by the 10 “outwards”. If you work with the 3 as a well-planned decision, you may find new ways easier.
Sum 4: The result must become visible in Day-to-Day life (4).
28th Prime: This is the answer to that which has to be re-build again and again: The confrontation with the Feminine (28), the Intuitive (2) Receptive (8) Principle. For Women with 103 that is easier than for Men.
10-3: Conscious Decision for Transformation.
Special attention:
There are no numbers on the feet, so staying connected to earth, staying ‘well-grounded’ may pose a problem. With all the spiritual energy of today wanting you to “lift off” it is very important to stay well grounded. So go for a walk or go dancing. Use and feel your feet to stay present.
Note: If your birthday is today, the topics described above are your topics for 2023. Should a baby be born on this day, then today’s themes are the baby’s life-themes.
See you (virtually) :
(D) Arbeitskreis: 23. Juni Hybride Düsseldorf
For a full explanation of the numbers and how to read the Pentagram have a look at my website: www.pentalogie.com
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2023.06.09 06:47 WispyBo1 I hate that wanting to excel even when you are doing well by other people’s standards is considered a bad thing

I’m a high school senior who recently got into some colleges and committed to where I’ll be the next couple of years. The school I’ll be going to has a single digit acceptance rate and is considered one of the top 10 universities by sites like USNews - which has its own list of issues but that’s a different story. Many people have come up to congratulate me, but for the last couple of months, I couldn’t - and still can’t - help but feel so unbearably frustrated at myself. My peers at school never considered me smart and they always complimented the people in my friend group for how intelligent they are but I was never one of them. Many people have made fun of me by assuming I have extremely poor grades or that I would be homeless when I’m older when, in reality, I have a 4.0 GPA and a 35 ACT, while thinking heavily about careers paths. People did a 180 degree turn when word got out that I got into the school I did, but I had also gotten rejected by 3 schools I really loved and held in higher regard. The reason I’m frustrated is not because I got rejected from these schools, but because I didn’t give my all when applying to them. I have myself 2 weeks to apply to 10 schools when most applicants spend months working on their applications. Not only do am I confident I would have gotten into at least one of these schools, but I would’ve had time to apply to many more that I couldn’t because of the time restraint. Although people are treating me better now, I can’t help but hate myself for wasting the years of work I put in, and whenever I try to share this sentiment of wanting to have done better, even with what I got, I am told I am being unreasonable or not thankful.
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2023.06.09 06:47 Randomtatertogo The Show

I’m watching The Orville now, on season 2 episode 11 now. I am loving it so much, started watching as a joke from seeing clips on Tik Tok and I’m literally glued to the screen I don’t want this show to end… The characters feel fleshed out, a good balance of funny and serious, and idk what y’all think but I thought the space battles / VFX are pretty damn good too lol
Bonus: my favorite character in the show is Dr. Finn or Gordon :p
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2023.06.09 06:47 chronic-venting Long-Silenced Victim of a Predatory Writer Gets to Tell Her Story

For decades, the writer Gabriel Matzneff used Francesca Gee's image and letters to champion his sexual pursuit of adolescents. But her own account was rejected, until now.
March 31, 2020
PARIS—In her telling, Francesca Gee was out with a girlfriend, a late autumn day in Paris in 1983, when they spotted a new bookstore. As they lingered before the storefront, her friend suddenly pointed to the bottom of the window.
"Look, it's you!"
Ms. Gee's face was staring back at her from the cover of a novel, Drunk on Lost Wine, by Gabriel Matzneff, the writer and champion of [child and adolescent sexual abuse].
A decade earlier, at 15, Ms. Gee, had gotten involved in a traumatic three-year relationship with the much older Mr. Matzneff. Now, he was using her teenage face on his novel's cover, and her letters in its pages, without having asked her or even informing her, she said.
For decades, despite Ms. Gee's protests, Mr. Matzneff used her letters to justify [adolescent sexual abuse] and what he cast as great love affairs with teenage girls, all the while supported by members of France's literary, media, business and political elite.
Mr. Matzneff's books were endorsed by some of France's most prestigious publishers, including Gallimard, which printed Drunk on Lost Wine (Ivre du vin perdu) for nearly four decades with the same cover—in effect using Ms. Gee's face to promote the kind of relationship that has scarred some of Mr. Matzneff's victims for life.
"I'm persecuted by this image of me, which is like a malevolent double," Ms. Gee said.
Hers is the story of a woman unable to tell her own story—until now.
Ms. Gee, now 62, contacted The New York Times after the publication of an article that described how Mr. Matzneff openly wrote about and engaged in sex with teenage girls and prepubescent boys for decades.
After anguishing over her decision, Ms. Gee—who had a career as a journalist and speaks fluent English, French, Italian and Spanish—broke her silence of 44 years in a series of interviews over two days in southwest France, where she lives.
That decision was facilitated by a recent cultural shift in France.
Mr. Matzneff first achieved renown in the 1970s, when some French intellectuals regarded [adult-child sex] as a form of liberation against parental oppression. Though those views fell out of favor in the 1990s, he continued to publish and prosper until late last year.
But in the past couple of months, he was charged with promoting the sexual abuse of children, stripped of state-conferred honors and dropped by his three publishers.
Gallimard stopped selling the novel with Ms. Gee's image on the cover only in January, after the publication of Le Consentement (Consent), the first account by one of Mr. Matzneff's underage victims, Vanessa Springora.
Consent turned the widely celebrated Mr. Matzneff into a social pariah overnight. While he went into hiding in Italy, his former supporters, across France's elite, have studiously distanced themselves or jettisoned him.
When she first heard of Consent, Ms. Gee said, she was "elated" that the "Vanessa" in Mr. Matzneff's books—someone she had never met but had always considered a little sister—was speaking.
"She has done the work, I don't have to worry about it anymore," Ms. Gee remembers thinking. "But then within a week or two, I realize that I'm very much a part of this story."
In fact, nearly two decades before Consent shook up France, Ms. Gee tried—unsuccessfully—to tell her story, in 2004. She wrote a manuscript that, in detailing her involvement with Mr. Matzneff, grappled with some of the same themes and used the same vocabulary as Consent.
But no publisher accepted her manuscript.
At Albin Michel, a major house, an editor appeared receptive—but when he took Ms. Gee's manuscript to a committee, it was ultimately turned down.
In a rejection letter, the editor, Thierry Pfister, explained that some committee members had expressed reservations, noting that Mr. Matzneff, was a part of "Saint-Germain-des-Prés"—shorthand for the French publishing industry concentrated in that Paris neighborhood.
"Back then, Matzneff wasn't the old, isolated man he is today," said Mr. Pfister, who is no longer at Albin Michel. "He was still in Paris with his network, his friends."
"We made the decision not to go cross swords with that group," he recalled. "There was more to lose than to gain. I spoke in her favor. They didn't agree with me."
Mr. Matzneff's network of supporters was surprisingly wide.
In 1973, when Ms. Gee was 15 and Mr. Matzneff was 37, a friend of the writer introduced them to a gynecologist who agreed to prescribe contraceptive pills to underage girls without their parents' authorization—an illegal act back then.
In his diary of the period, "Élie et Phaéton," Mr. Matzneff writes that the gynecologist, Dr. Michèle Barzach, "at no point felt the need to lecture this man of 37 years and his lover of 15."
Ms. Gee said she saw Dr. Barzach a half-dozen times over three years, always accompanied by Mr. Matzneff.
"He calls her and makes an appointment, and we go," she recalled. "He's in the waiting room while I'm with her. And then he comes in, and they talk and he pays her."
In his other diaries, Mr. Matzneff writes that Dr. Barzach became the go-to gynecologist to whom he took underage girls for years after he and Ms. Gee parted in 1976.
Dr. Barzach, who was also a psychoanalyst, was France's health minister from 1986 to 1988 under President François Mitterrand.
From 2012 to 2015, she was the head in France of UNICEF, the United Nation's child protection agency. Citing privacy reasons, UNICEF refused to provide contact details for Dr. Barzach, who is no longer at the agency. Dr. Barzach did not reply to an interview request that UNICEF said had been forwarded to her.
"Love"? Or a "Hostage Taking"?
For decades, Mr. Matzneff claimed that his relations with underage girls had helped them for the rest of their lives. Their initiation into art, literature, love and sex, by an older man, had left them happier and freer, he claimed.
The claim—repeated by his supporters—went unchallenged until the publication in January of Consent, in which Ms. Springora writes that her involvement with Mr. Matzneff, starting at age 14, left her with psychological problems for decades.
In her unpublished manuscript of 2004, Ms. Gee described her involvement with the writer as a "cataclysm that shattered me when I was 15 years old, and that changed the course of my life"—leaving her "ashamed, bitter and confused."
The accounts by Ms. Gee and Ms. Springora are especially significant because Mr. Matzneff has often described them as two of the three great loves of his life. He devoted diaries, novels, poems and essays to each woman—material that, according to anti-[child sexual abuse] groups, provided the intellectual cover for many men to target prepubescent children or adolescent girls.
Ms. Gee recalls running into Mr. Matzneff for the first time in Paris in 1973 with her mother, who had known him years before.
David Gee, Ms. Gee's younger brother, said their parents regularly invited the writer over for dinner parties. His presence especially pleased their father, a British journalist long based in Paris who sought his place in French society.
"It was one of those very important things, socially speaking, to be established in the intelligentsia," Mr. Gee said. "That was more important than looking at the side effects of [child and adolescent sexual abuse]."
With her father's approval, Ms. Gee saw the writer over three years, unable to break away from him. Ms. Gee's father died in 2014.
Using the same methods he later would with Ms. Springora, Mr. Matzneff exercised a hold on the teenage girl. He isolated her, forbidding her to socialize with friends her age.
He pulled political strings to have Ms. Gee transferred to a high school near his home—and boasted about it in his diaries. Then he got into the habit of waiting for Ms. Gee outside her new high school, Lycée Montaigne, next to the Luxembourg Gardens.
"He came every day to make sure that everyone understood that no one was supposed to try anything with me," Ms. Gee recalled. "It was a very specific place where he was just standing there waiting for me."
Ms. Gee recently met with one of the detectives who began investigating Mr. Matzneff and his supporters in the aftermath of the publication of Consent. After she detailed her involvement with Mr. Matzneff during the five-hour meeting in Paris, she said, the detective described it as a "hostage taking."
Trapped in His Stories
Ms. Gee turned 18 in 1976 and, after several anguished attempts, was finally able to free herself from Mr. Matzneff's grip, having become more and more critical of him. "It was growing up, basically," she said.
Still, she would remain hostage for decades—trapped in his storytelling and his use of her letters.
Encouraged by Mr. Matzneff, Ms. Gee had written him hundreds of amorous and sexually explicit letters during their three years together.
Some of them he published in 1974, without her authorization, in his fierce defense of [child and adolescent sexual abuse], Les moins de seize ans (Under 16 Years Old). He was offering those letters, he wrote in another book, Les passions schismatiques, as evidence that "a relationship of love between an adult and a child could be for the latter extremely rich, and the source of a fullness of life."
Ms. Gee said the words in the letters were those of a teenager manipulated by a man the age of her parents. Her letters were also used in Ivre du vin perdu, the novel whose cover featured an illustration of her.
"Now I consider they were extorted and used as a weapon against me," Ms. Gee said.
In her manuscript, Ms. Gee writes that "he used me to justify the sexual exploitation of children and teenagers."
For years, Ms. Gee's feelings about her experience with Mr. Matzneff were "muddied." Then in the early 1990s, her understanding became clearer.
"It was only when I was almost 35 years old that I realized this wasn't a love story," Ms. Gee recalled.
It was in 1992 that she contacted Mr. Matzneff, demanding that he stop using her letters and that he return them to her. Eventually, he sent her a photocopied stack—a carefully selected batch that excluded her negative correspondence.
A decade later, in 2002, it was Mr. Matzneff who wrote to her, asking, for the first time, her permission to use old photographs of her in a book. In the turquoise blue ink that he always used to pen his letters, Mr. Matzneff offered to identify the teenager as "the young girl who inspired the character of Angiolina in Ivre du vin perdu."
Not only did Ms. Gee refuse, but she also demanded again that his books be purged of her letters and that her face be taken off the cover of Ivre du vin perdu. She also demanded that three old photographs of her be taken off a website devoted to Mr. Matzneff and created by an admirer, Frank Laganier. The photos were pulled only seven years later, in 2010, after Ms. Gee's continued pressure, she said.
Mr. Laganier, who is now living in Paris, declined interview requests. His lawyer, Emmanuel Pierrat—who is representing Mr. Matzneff in a [promotion of child sexual abuse] case and is a longtime supporter of the writer—declined to be interviewed.
In 2004, Ms. Gee began preparing to sue Gallimard, the publisher of Ivre du vin perdu, and La passion Francesca, Mr. Matzneff's diary of their relationship, but stopped because of the high legal costs. Gallimard did not respond to interview requests; Antoine Gallimard, the head of the publishing house, did not respond to an interview request sent to his email address.
Unable to stop Mr. Matzneff, Ms. Gee also could not tell her own story.
After her manuscript was rejected by Albin Michel, she took it, unsuccessfully, to several other publishing houses.
Geneviève Jurgensen, who was an editor at Bayard and met with Ms. Gee in 2004, said the manuscript's focus was not in line with Bayard, which specialized in publishing youth books, as well as works on philosophy and religion.
Ms. Jurgensen, after recently reading excerpts from the manuscript, described it as "well written" and containing "situations that seem almost word for word those described by Vanessa Springora."
"Obviously, it wasn't the quality of the book that was the issue," Ms. Jurgensen said of Ms. Gee's failure to find a publisher in 2004. "Clearly, it was 15 years too early. The world wasn't ready yet."
The final rejection came from Grasset, the very same publisher that broke a taboo by issuing Ms. Springora's Consent in January.
Martine Boutang, an editor at Grasset, remembers being moved by Ms. Gee's account, she said, but couldn't see a way to get it published: the subject was "too sensitive," and two members of Grasset's editorial committee were "close to Matzneff."
"The question wasn't the quality of the text," she said.
Ms. Gee recalls feeling that Ms. Boutang was trying to stall the project by asking her to rework a manuscript that she had no intention of publishing. Ms. Boutang said she did not remember asking for a rewrite.
By contrast, Mr. Matzneff had no problems continuing to get his writings published—including Under 16 Years Old, the book that used Ms. Gee's letters to justify [adult] sex with underage girls.
Whose Story?
In a recent interview in the Italian Riviera, where he has been hiding, Mr. Matzneff said that if Ms. Gee "called me tomorrow, I would be delighted to see her."
Ms. Gee would be delighted if she could stop being reminded of him. In a book published last November, more than four decades after she left him, Mr. Matzneff mentioned her no fewer than a dozen times. Ms. Gee herself is now working on a new manuscript on the writer.
Over the years, unexpected incidents have sometimes reminded her that she remains a prisoner inside Mr. Matzneff's story.
A few years ago, she found herself waiting outside the Lycée Montaigne, her old high school, which her niece Lélia was now attending.
"I wait for her where Matzneff used to wait for me," Ms. Gee recalled.
Over lunch, her niece, a literature student, told her that she was "working on a contemporary author called Gabriel Matzneff."
That's how Lélia, who is now 25, learned that the books she had been reading described a "family history," she says. To this day, she says, she had talked little with her aunt about her days with Mr. Matzneff.
"Most of what I know about all of this comes from Gabriel Matzneff, and not my aunt," she said. "And that's exactly where the problem lies."
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2023.06.09 06:47 hentaihunniii I (F29) want to help my fiancé (M30) handle the news of his dad’s lung cancer returning

My fiancé is the light of my life. He is the sweetest and most thoughtful person I’ve ever met in the world. He is kind and considerate and compassionate to me and his friends and my friends and any animal he could ever meet on the street. I could swear on my life that he hung the stars in the sky. He is literally the most beautiful and brightest soul in the world. And I can see where he gets it from: even though his parents are divorced (since he was a young child) they are civil and understanding and ask about each other often. They were, from everything I hear, encouraging and loving and wonderful in every capacity. I’ve also been lucky enough to witness it, because from the moment we started dating they have been nothing but accepting and supportive and loving to me as if I were their own. I dont have a great relationship with my parents so this has meant a great deal to me and Im extremely attached to his parents. Unfortunately, his dad’s lung cancer has come back after he was diagnosed stage 4 and “beat it” around 5 years ago. His dad is his best friend. It’s very rough and we’re getting good news very rarely. We are getting married next year and we planned to start trying for a child immediately after. It’s been hard to think he won’t be around for any of it. And harder still to think he maybe won’t be around at all soon. I know as hard as it’s hitting me, my fiancé is taking it much worse. He’s having a horrible time, keeping it together as best as he can, but it’s so hard on him and he breaks down regularly from it. I know there is nothing I can do to remedy the situation or to make it any better but all I want to do every day when I wake up is make him smile and make his life easier because he does it so effortlessly for me every day and he deserves the world. I’m just looking for ideas for gifts, gestures, etc that will make him happy. Take his mind off everything if only for a moment. Any ideas for him and his dad together, or just things to do for him or give him. He’s huge on Zelda (esp because it was the first game he ever played through and he played it with his dad), we’re both big fans of the Soulsborne games, he loves all things JRPG and honestly gaming in general. He’s a musician (guitarist in a death metal band) but I don’t know anything about his gear or anything he could want or need. Loves otters. Loves animals in general. Big on tattoos & pretty inked up already. I’m also just looking for help on how to best emotionally support him. He always tells me I’m helping just by being around and I’m his comfort person, but I get so scared I’m not dealing with it correctly or supporting him enough or saying the right thing. More than anything I want to be there for him to make everything easier in any way I can, especially emotionally and mentally. I would lay down my life to take away his pain so any gesture or efforts I could put in to ease it, I’m more than willing to do. Any help is greatly appreciated. I just want to see him happy as often as I can and try to help him through this in any way possible.
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2023.06.09 06:46 mathographer_ IIT student, failed in all subjects in first sem. Really need help, advice and motivation.

Hi Guys,
As the title suggests, I am a 2nd semester student at an old IIT in the EE department. My academic situation is very very bleak. I have failed literally all cources in first semester and will most likely fail a few (most likely 1) courses this semester too. I am very very depressed. I feel like I have wasted any advantage that I could have had by having a degree from IIT. I feel like my two years of tireless hard work has been wasted. I really need your honest advice on the following:
1) Is it even possible to complete my degree in 4 years?
2) Is campus placement even a possibility for me considering I may not be able to clear my backlogs before placement season?
3) How hard will off campus placements be? Will I be able to get a similar CTC to my on- campus peers? Will companies hire someone in my position? What kinds of firms would be open to hiring me?
4) What's the most reasonable CPI I can get before end of 6th and 7th sens respectively?
5) I always wanted to pursue higher education abroad (MS and most likely PhD) from a top university. Is there any chance of that? What would my CPI need to be for that? How can I make up for my past mistakes?
6) Any kind of motivational stories etc would also be very helpful.
Thanks.
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2023.06.09 06:46 SnooRegrets4878 Love, Faith, Joy - June 8, 2023

“Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory: Receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.” (1 Peter 1:8-9)
Peter had seen the Lord, but he was writing to those who hadn’t, including us. Like them, we can have a personal relationship with the Lord, even though we haven’t physically seen Him. “Blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed” (John 20:29). Also like them, we can have terrible trials (1 Peter 1:7). Their responses to Christ while in the midst of trials, as given in our text, are likewise appropriate for us.
They loved Him: Love many times makes a trial bearable. “We love him, because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?” (Romans 8:35). He loves us too much to abandon us, and we love Him in return.
They believed: “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth [or believes] in thee” (Isaiah 26:3). “Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters” (Jeremiah 17:7-8). Our faith is well founded.
They rejoiced: “But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy” (1 Peter 4:13). The proper response to trials brings inexpressible joy. The end of such faith as explained in our text is the complete and ultimate salvation of our souls, with many victories of faith along the way. JDM
https://www.icr.org/article/14068/?utm_source=phplist10641&utm_medium=email&utm_content=HTML&utm_campaign=June+8+-+Love%2C+Faith%2C+Joy
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2023.06.09 06:46 ChickenofBoom I don't feel like there should be a season 2

This might be a hot take but I feel like it is perfect just the way it is and a second season would ruin it. I don't know if the light novel or manga go past it but i think it should end and be a wonderful one-off.
It's hilarious, has great fights and moment's of seriousness, the second to last episode twist is fantastic, lastly thats followed by a melancholy bittersweet ending with a ray of hope for a better future and further adventures that just ties it up perfectly. I feel more season's would just tarnish that just for the sake of not wanting it to end.
I would love to here others perspectives about the ending and about the possibility of a second season.
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2023.06.09 06:46 BryggerHeise Numerological day analysis of 9-6–2023 22/4 Mystic/ Physical Realization, Daily practice

Numerological day analysis of 9-6–2023 22/4 Mystic/ Physical Realization, Daily practice
Inspired by wisdom, intelligence, communication and sensitiveness you want to physically Manifest Mysticism today.
9-6–2023 22/4 Mystic/ Physical Realization, Daily practice
Spirit: 9 Wisdom; Intelligence; Communication; Sensitiveness; Reason
Soul: 6 Power; Male Drive; Yang; Life force; Sexuality
Body: 23 Unconditional Love or ‘Cry for Love’?
The sum total of today is 22: Mystic leading to Physical Realization. You want to bring mysticism into reality through your your spirit’s wisdom and intelligence, your soul’s power and drive and your physical ability to express Unconditional Love.

Today's pentagram
Themes
There are no major themes driving your process. This means that your process this year is more about the interaction with the outside world, than the inside world. There is a high level of spiritual and mental awareness today
Levels of awareness
There is a high level of spiritual and mental awareness today.
Your spiritual awareness is obtained through Inner Happiness and Dissolution-Renewal.
Your mental awareness is obtained through “Human Animal” - Sphinx and Unpredictable Intelligence.
The goal of both levels is that you intuit your potential of the high priestess of Eros, that you physically manifest the divine connection and that you show feminine perseverance and feminine awakening.
Triangle with the 6th (“Ego" realm) principle:
The spiritual and mental triangle formed with the 6th principle gives you the energy of the higher dimension of “Diplomacy or Fate”. It is all about finding an effortless way of relating Power to Form, without the Power destroying the Form and thus creating Fate.
Individual numbers:
To better understand the meaning of the five numbers active today, I give you the full explanation of them.
Masculine side:
Mental level: Blue 2(5): 25 Inner Happiness
Inner Happiness arises when a person is fully at peace with him/herself. Situations in the outer world and/or the presence of certain people (“ without hehim I cannot live”) no longer affect him/her. His/her Inner Happiness will radiate and attract lucky circumstances.
52 : 5= Jupiter as a Symbol for Expansion multiplied by itself. It means that 25 consists only of 5!
5 behind 2: Life Fulfilment (Expansion) (5) inspires Intuition (2) or increases Doubt (2).
Sum 7: It results in Self-Awareness.
Emotional level: Blue/Red: 36 “Human animal”; Sphinx
3x12; 2x18; 62
In the Bible 36 is called the ‘Father Number of the Human Animal’. 36 is the Occult Root*of 666. This number is being unjustly demonized up until today. 36 demands to enjoy life with all one’s senses – enjoying the full life!
* The Occult Root is determined as follows: If one adds up all the consecutive numbers from 1 to 36, the result will be 666. 36 is then called the Occult Root of 666. In the same manner 4 is the Occult Root of 10 (the so-called Tetractys of Pythagoras).
Sphinx: Symbol for the union of the sublime human head with the reclining animal body. This signifies that on the instinct level we are connected to the animals. We have the instincts to feed ourselves, to procreate ourselves. Contrary to the animals however we have a mind and a soul and we are able to decide for ourselves how we will deal with these instincts.
3x12: Conscious Decision (3) for Perfection, Completion (12).
2x18: In the 18 lies the Temptation to be led by one’s animal instincts and then to end up in Separations (2).
62:: Male Sexuality to the 2nd power!
6 behind 3: Powerful (6) Decisions (3), that may be constructive or destructive.
Sum 9: Use the Intellect!
‘Ego’ realm: Blue/Red 69 Involution-Evolution
3x23/10th Prime
In the Pentagram the numbers 1 - 6 are the so-called involutive numbers (this means: Spirit enters Matter). Consequently the number 7-10 are the evolutive numbers (The spiritual quintessence has to emerge from Matter).
The 6 receives the Force from the 1 (Axis 1-6) and directs it on through the successive principles up till 9. There the Force lands in the upper circle of the 9.
The combination 69 is the only one that remains the same when you turn it by 180o. When you turn it 90o the zodiacal sign of Cancer appears – resembling the lemniscus of the (horizontal) 8.
69 requires transformation of the Power of the 6 into the Wisdom of the 9. That is exactly the impulse the 9 gives to the 6.
69 symbolizes the eternal movement of Life, like in the four seasons of the year.
3x23: this cycle may only be achieved through transformed Love (23). A Conscious Decision (3) is required.
Sum 6 over 15 (6+9): Power (6) and Wisdom (9) must be in a 50/50 balance (15) to achieve Power (6).
Feminine side:
Mental level: Blue/ Red 92 Unpredictable Intelligence
2x46; 4x23/10th Prime Rank + Prime: 21st + 71
Should you only focus on your intellect, you become a pure “Fact-Based Person”. You might only accept that which can be physically touched and that which the current state of science confirms. It creates a certain kind of “Cold Intellect”.
2 behind 9: Should you however link Intuition (2) to Mind/Intellect (9) a wonderful addition of two different ways of dealing with the ways of the world is created. Intelligence becomes unpredictable then.
Sum 11: Double Divine Idea; Master Number.
2x46: the correct Intuitive (2) way of handling the “Hard Reality” of Space (4) and Power (6).
4x23: The desire for Love (23) penetrates Matter (4).
21st + 71: The Intelligence should feed itself through spiritual Growth (21) and Visions (71).
Spiritual level: Red (10)3:103 Dissolution and Renewal
28th Prime
103 makes extremely restless: the 3 penetrates with Decisiveness into Matter, the 10 piles out to Transform and a find a new beginning. 103 gives a concentrated decisiveness, which always gives a short term energy boost – either by the 3 “inwards’ or by the 10 “outwards”. If you work with the 3 as a well-planned decision, you may find new ways easier.
Sum 4: The result must become visible in Day-to-Day life (4).
28th Prime: This is the answer to that which has to be re-build again and again: The confrontation with the Feminine (28), the Intuitive (2) Receptive (8) Principle. For Women with 103 that is easier than for Men.
10-3: Conscious Decision for Transformation.
Special attention:
There are no numbers on the feet, so staying connected to earth, staying ‘well-grounded’ may pose a problem. With all the spiritual energy of today wanting you to “lift off” it is very important to stay well grounded. So go for a walk or go dancing. Use and feel your feet to stay present.
Note: If your birthday is today, the topics described above are your topics for 2023. Should a baby be born on this day, then today’s themes are the baby’s life-themes.
See you (virtually) :
(D) Arbeitskreis: 23. Juni Hybride Düsseldorf
For a full explanation of the numbers and how to read the Pentagram have a look at my website: www.pentalogie.com
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2023.06.09 06:45 bodg123 I've accepted love likely isn't in the cards for me, along with many other things.

I'm 33 years old with absolutely no prospects. I live at home with my mother.
My teeth are terrible. Poor dental hygiene and terrible eating habits for years. At one point I probably didn't know any better, but once you are old enough you should. I guess I didn't understand why I should care. It's something I am now painfully aware of. Any potential love interest will instinctively think 'ick' 'gross' when they see me smile. I am missing 4 teeth, 2 need to be removed still. On the plus side, I fell into enough money to start getting implants put in. I will be in debt with my mother or the dentist depending on how it shakes out. This has been eye opening enough for me to start saving $1000 a month(about %50 of my income) so I can actually complete the work. My teeth will still be off white, but my cavaties will be gone, my rotting teeth out of my mouth, and I will be able to eat properly.
I have no education, and at this point it would take more support than I have to change that. I don't have the will to overcome that obstacle alone. Not to mention I need a full time income to get the above done as well as be prepared for anything life could throw at me.
I don't have a good relationship with my mother but I have no where else to go and no one else. I have 2 large dogs( 1 over 100lb, the other 80lb). That means even if I could afford to leave down the line, I'd need to rent a house. I have no other comparisons and I've never rented, but a 3bd 1bath is 2650 plus utilities. That's like 1250 with 3 people or 1900 with 2. That would be over half my income and id have to find 2 people who can understand the reactive nature of my dogs as well as the noise a great pyrenees makes. They don't hurt people, but can fight each other if they get overexcited and are too close to each other. I seperate them when I'm not there and my current home has enough room for them to both be inside the kitchen without threatening each other's space. I walk a fine line and have learned to manage them through the errors that I have made in the past. When I think about all that, the only thing keeping me from not wanting to live here is the stigma. I live in a small 2 bedroom on a decent lot. My mom just built an Adu for my brother. I currently don't pay rent but am going to once my teeth are paid off.
I don't have a good job or the kind of outgoing personality you need to make connections and move up quickly. I have a good work ethic, I do my job well. I've tried applying for the only other position at my job that I don't feel is a lateral move(and that I want to do) but I haven't had any luck. I had one interview once but I don't think it went all that well. It felt awkward. I haven't tried looking for positions outside my current employer. I guess I don't wanna have a commute again, or think I will find more than I'm currently making. All that to say, without some stroke of dumb luck, my financial situation is unlikely to change. I will likely never own a house. You simply cannot afford to buy a house on minimum wage. I'm making 20 an hour atm which is a jump from my employer paying me 13-14 and my previous employer paying me 10. I've only ever made slightly above minimum. My income has only went up because minimum wage has went up. Currently it's 15.50. Although now I have a bigger cushion, everything keeps getting more expensive. Only my cannabis costs have went down. My mother's house was 175 in 2010. In 2021 before she built the Adu having done absolutely no maintenance, it went up to 475. With what I'm making now, I could have saved up for a down-payment on the price of 175k or even found something for 150. It's just not doable. Even in the areas that were just coming up and selling homes for less than a 100k are now 300 400+.
With all this, I still find myself picky in my love life. The caliber of woman I want is one I'm just not worthy of. I don't want to settle for anyone who sends a smile my way. I want the kind of connection where my gut is screaming at me, with the kind of beauty that would catch my attention from across the room. I had this once before so I know it exist, but now I'm an ageing man with nothing to show for himself but the ravages of time.
The most realistic outcome I can come for is making a good friend or two, and having enough spare change to travel to other countries. I don't have any friends or acquaintances currently. Owning property and love are more than likely not in the cards for me. I'd be lieing if I said this life is worth living, but I still pray I get kept around for at least 15 more years. If I die, my dogs will have no one.
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2023.06.09 06:45 ThrowRa0431134 I [23F] feel useless helping my fiancé [27M] with his personal problems

How should I address his lack of communication about his problems?
I’m gonna go on a rant because I genuinely am stuck and I could really use any help I can get (please don’t be malicious and as a discretion I don’t want to hear things like “leave him” or anything like that). I genuinely don’t know what to do. For some context, I’ve been with my current partner for about 4 years and we got engaged not too long ago. We have had pretty good communication throughout our relationship. It was definitely tough in the beginning given that we didn’t understand each other at the time, but after all these years, we’re miles ahead from where we are. There’s always something that bugged me though and I’ve tried to come to terms with it but it still bothers me. Whenever I feel like my partner is stressed about personal problems (his parents, his job, or anything like that), he tends to tell me things as they are, but never goes into detail. He tells me what he’s stressed about a. b. c. But he never seems to expand any further. He gets frustrated with me when I want to know information because I feel like I have a right to know given that I’m spending the rest of my life with him and I don’t want to be in a position where he has all these things bottled up in his head and I’m just sitting next to him CLUELESS about what’s going on. I try to press him for more information but he always tells me that the information he gave to me is all he has to tell me. It’s like he chooses bits and pieces of information to tell me in the moment and when he’s “ready” he’ll tell me the full story. Or he says things like he hasn’t thought much further about it and leaves me hanging while I know it’s stressing him out. I just hate seeing him in a bad mood and I want to comfort him and ease his stress. But even that he feels it’s useless because the stress will remain there regardless. I try to give him some time for himself and respect his space because I know that can help. But whenever I try to bring it up again, he says he’s not in the mood to talk about his problems and NEVER BRINGS IT UP AGAIN !!!! I don’t want to make it about myself but I always tell him what’s going on in my life and in my head whatever thought comes to mind and I just feel like he doesn’t do the same. I want to help him out you know. I can’t be naive to think my small talks are going to take his stress away because at the end of the day he’s gonna wake up and he’s still going to have to deal with them. He tells me that the reason he shuts his thoughts down is because he doesn’t want to drive himself crazy overthinking his problems. Later on down when he figures things out he’ll share the information. But the problem is… he NEVER DOES. I know that his parents stress him out A LOT and he doesn’t bring it up too often and I just want to know what a stressing him out, what are they doing to stress him out, and what I CAN DO TO HELP. I’m not trying to be a savior-complex, but I genuinely do love him and care about him and he has no one to fall back on when he’s feeling like this. We don’t live together yet but I don’t want this to put a deep strain into our relationship where everytime he’s stressed he just suppresses his feelings because I know for a fact it will one day blow up. Right now I can see it because he gets frustrated and annoyed when I try to explain why it’s important for him to communicate with me and he just sees it as a lecture and saying I’m adding onto his stress and he doesn’t want to talk anymore. I’m not his teacher and I sure as hell am not his mom to be lecturing him (he already gets enough of that from his parent) so I have no idea how to deal with him and his stress. Please any advice would be appreciated because I want him to be comfortable talking to me and see me as someone trying to help him feel better (which idk how cause I feel like I’m making a mistake when trying to make him feel better - aka a temporary relief) and try to deal with him in a healthy way. Thanks for reading lol
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2023.06.09 06:44 zjheyyy88 First boots? Justified or unfair. A discussion

Cycle 1-Tessa
Her photo was pretty bad and per the photographer she couldn’t model. So this feels justified because it was cycle one so I’ll give it to them
Cycle 2-Anna
She didn’t do the photoshoot so this isn’t surprising
Cycle 3-Magdalena
Her photo was pretty bad and she seemed a bit more quiet/reserved compared to the rest of cast (Tocarra, Amanda, Eva) so I can see why she got booted. But not even from Tyra??? From an envelope in Jamaica???
Cycle 4-Brita
Wasn’t her whole thing that she looked too old? It was giving “because they need someone to go home first”
Cycle 5-Ashley
I feel kind of bad for her. I don’t think she wanted to give into the reality aspect of the show, she just wanted to model and the the producers said bye.
Cycle 6-Kathy
Southern sweet girl. I don’t think she knew what she got herself into
Cycle 7-Christian
This was so sad. Her picture wasn’t that good but also the concept was kind of tacky. Could you imagine had she stayed and Melrose had gotten the boot???????????? No way.
Cycle 8-Kathleen
Lol.
Cycle 9-Mila
I’m not even sure where to begin with this girl
Cycle 10-Atalya
Again she was quiet and shy and the cycle had huge personalities (Dominque, Fatima, Lauren) so not surprising
Cycle 11-Sharaun
We all saw this coming. Sometimes you can just tell because IIRC the photo wasn’t even bad but they threw in the towel with her and it showed. Rule 101 of ANTM, don’t be cocky week one.
Cycle 12-Isabella
This was kind of sad too. I don’t think she would’ve made it much further but Sandra was obviously kept because she caused drama
Cycle 13-Lisa
I don’t remember anything about her but didn’t she have some success after the show?
Cycle 14-Gabrielle
I really liked her!! I wanted to see a lot more of her too but maybe it was her photo
Cycle 15-Annamaria
Again she was cocky and we all know how Tyra loves to serve a good dish of karma
Cycle 16-Angelia
I actually liked her photo but that cycle was super strong
Cycle 17-Britney
They did her kind of dirty. That photoshoot was a joke and then they based the elimination off of popularity and they tried so hard to make the models celebrities but how is that even fair when her cycle was years ago.
I’ve only watched up to all stars but feel free to keep it going
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